Escaping the "Friends Zone"

[disenchant]

*sigh*

Every girl who flirts or is friends with a guy is interested in him on some level. It's just some girls are be-yotches and want to play with guys' hearts and some are straightforward and nice.

Always make a move if she is flirting or friends. You already know she's interested! The way she responds will tell you whether she's a Beyotch or a Nice Girl. If she pretends she was never interested (bullcrap) or you misread her actions (bullcrap) or she doesn't want to "ruin the friendship" (bullcrap) then you know she's of the Beyotch variety and you'd be nothing but miserable in that relationship anyway.

If she accepts your advances she's of the Nice Girl variety. And some Nice Girls can change into Naughty Girls in the bedroom, so don't shy away!

Some times you just gotta take chances or you'll never get anywhere.

 

[NJL]

One sure fire way to tell. As you're walking in the apartment behind her, perform the "credit card move". That is, make your hand completely flat then run it from the bottom to the top of her butt-crack (over top of her pants of course)....like swiping a credit card. If she doesn't smack you, you're in.

LMAO

 

[NJL]

*sigh*

Every girl who flirts or is friends with a guy is interested in him on some level. It's just some girls are be-yotches and want to play with guys' hearts and some are straightforward and nice.

how sure of this are you?

 

[cheezewiz]

Yep. I throw the BS alert on that one. Most girls don't have any idea what they want.

 

[Vorago]

Girls that want to be "Friends" DO NOT invite guys to there houses to watch movies alone.

Thats all I would have needed right there. You should have gone for her.

Excellent point.

 

[SirCanealot]

Epic fail. You have no idea how much I suck with girls (still learning to not be a social dufus ), but I'd have so been in there if I was in that situation.

Live and learn, eh? And even if you get nowhere, your favourite porn site will still be open when you get home

 

[manicbassman]

I was knee-deep in poonpie the next semester until, well...an incident, yeah-we'll call it that, with me, my ex-girlfriend's little sister(she was 18), the ex-girlfriend, her mom, their cat, the window, and my baseball glove. Ahhh, college...

!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!

the mind boggles at the permutations and positions...

 

[Vorago]

One sure fire way to tell. As you're walking in the apartment behind her, perform the "credit card move". That is, make your hand completely flat then run it from the bottom to the top of her butt-crack (over top of her pants of course)....like swiping a credit card. If she doesn't smack you, you're in.

Which is why you're visiting England with your mother instead of traveling Latimour style

 

[manicbassman]

Let me see if I got this straight.

You go out with friends.

Cute cold weather Babe invites fully equipped
testosterone laden studly he-man back
to her cozy little place to 'watch movie'.

You wander around in mental circle pondering what to do.

Babe thinks she is unattractive cause you don't seem to
want to hit the target.

Man, youth is wasted on young people.

Hasn't Maki taught you ANYTHING here?

+1000... what does the guy require, a telegram giving him permission???

she invited him up for a movie...

 

[disenchant]

how sure of this are you?

Because people don't waste time doing something that has no purpose. So cultivating a male's friendship either means she wants to date him or she wants to string him along and use his attention to make herself feel better and also have something to do if all her other guys are busy.

Being friends is a way of getting to know a person to see if they are a potential match. It's just some girls are evil, so you should stay away from those. Thing is, it's hard to tell which ones are evil.

Guys do the same thing. I don't think any guy would bother being friends with me if they weren't interested on some level. There are just fewer guys who do the evil thing this way.

 

[jimb213]

There is no escape from the friend zone.

pretty much this. My buddy put it this way once: if you're actually friends with a girl, like hanging out with her a lot within your group of friends, she's one of the people you call when you're getting together with people, etc... if there was chemistry there, the relationship would more than likely develop naturally.

HOWEVER, from your story, you're not in the friend zone with this girl yet. Cowgoesmoo and disenchant have made some good points about how to handle the situation from here, so I'll just leave it to them...

 

[Eric Perry]

Which is why you're visiting England with your mother instead of traveling Latimour style

Hard CORE zing!!!!

 

[santucci218]

dude, just flash her the goods and she will get the picture.

 

[Spoiled Grape]

Ask her when she wants to see another movie at her place (your place maybe?) Proceed with the backdoor party.

 

[Fontaine]

i think disenchant has a really great point...im going to try the things that she pointed out....and the advice from Cowgoesmoo when im at the movies next time.

but what disenchant said really seems to make sense when u think about it...

 

[i_got_a_mohawk]

Play fighting is the way

 

[MakiSupaStar]

Next time the lights go down. Hump her leg. If she turns on the light and asks what you are doing tell her that you're humping her leg and that you'll let her know when you're done.

 

[Thor]

...
Hasn't Maki taught you ANYTHING here?

Learn from the Zen master.

 

[jonathan_matos5]

ive screwed up many times with women and you screwed up. i was in this situation last october and didnt move quick enough and now she is gone ive moved on but am more alert in this type of situation.

women are often too subtle so take even the slightest glance as she may be interested in you and go for it. dont be afraid to ask a girl out because if you are afraid to ask a girl out then you will never get a date. be confident in who you are and take a risk or nothings gonna get you out of the friend zone.

 

[Mike Money]

Different things work for different guys.


For me, it varies.

She'll be yammering on about her ex-boyfriend and how he just knew how to touch her right and blah blah blah... so i rub my finger tips on the back of her neck, keep listening... blah blah blah... 30 minutes later its all fun and games.


Sometimes being a douche works.

"Hey, give me your number so I know not to pick up the phone."

"AH! 555-5555!!!"

And a couple days later, makin sweet love.

Sometimes... overly sweet. "Here, I'll walk you to your car. Its dangerous."

And 3/10 times... "wanna make a baby?"


Doesn't really matter how you make the move. Just make one.