A couple of things...
First is gender and or sex are often irrelevant to music in the context of playing, creating, performing for the most part. I think the biggest difference in a bass specific context is lugging amps and cabs around and MAYBE hand size and technique when say playing the first five frets on bass.
The second is that threads of this nature always turn into a charlie foxtrot of emotions, feelings, poorly veiled sexism masquerading as ignorance and sometimes people can show that they're willing to learn and grow. I've been glad to see that there is a lot of civil discourse and listening going on so far and people are showing they're willing to grow, but it can still be hard to see these discussions happening constantly.
I tend to opt out of a lot of these discussions because I'm flat out tired of trying to defend myself and I have a fairly prickly attitude when these topics come up that ends up more as a "FU" until proven otherwise.
That said, being willing to show that your able to grow and willing to start looking and trying to understand other folks' experiences outside of yours is a good sign and it really is something that I wish more people were able to do.
I strongly disagree with you on the campfire. Its all in the hips dear!!
Yep. The overt sexism/sex appeal is the biggest thing that a lot of other women see when those posts come up. It doesn't bother me really, but I almost want to start the hot bass playing dude thread, you know, just cuz.