still , it’s not like she would understand and a war would be inevitable so maybe I’ll just suck it up
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Guilt
- Thread starter Vinny Vincenzo
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When you feel the need to ask, you actually already know the answer.
I’m not the type to hide anything from my girl, but again I won’t go and say, “ hey, do you like my new (add name of new toy here)? I just bought it. “ if she asks if something is new, I will tell her though.
She laughs when I say I’m going to sell some gear to buy new stuff. She says “no you won’t”. She is a pretty good sport actually.
She doesn’t like spending money on herself, so I normally will end up buying it for her. She has been looking at a Michael Koors purse lately, and as soon as I figure out which size to get, I’m going to suprise her with it. The history on her iPad makes it so easy for me to figure out little surprises. Of course she might be doing that on purpose, knowing I’ll look. She might have me figured out more than I care to admit.
She will think I shouldn’t have , it’s just hiding it , that’s where I feel guilty cause if I tell her war!The question is why do you feel guilty? Why do you feel like you have done something that you shouldn't have done? Is it because you legitimately shouldn't have bought the bass, or is it because you're worried that your wife thinks you shouldn't have bought the bass? Those are two very different things. The former which you should probably listen to, the latter, which you should probably ignore and keep the bass between you and the amplifier....
Pbassmanca
In the pocket n' thumpy. So woody, so greasy...
Just go about your business, and if she notices the new bass, just say, “I got this to replace the one I got rid of years ago”.
I'm with lmfn, if you're asking, you already know.
My wife is my partner, and out of respect, I check with her when it's new toy time. Guilt is a useless and expensive emotion, and usually completely avoidable, life is too short.
My wife is my partner, and out of respect, I check with her when it's new toy time. Guilt is a useless and expensive emotion, and usually completely avoidable, life is too short.
When I feel guilt it'll either be a B-302 or a Starfire.
In that case I wouldn't sweat it...
Save the guilt for when you get caught. I hope your wife isn't Colombian.
If you're cheating with a rare vintage bass, we demand pictures: We (I) want Bass Porn (say it with me now)!
I sneak stuff in all the time, basses (and amps) all look the same to her (I'm a lucky man). I give her money anytime she wants it and buy her whatever she wants, she still gets PO'ed if I buy anything expensive so I don't tell her and I don't feel guilty at all because I know how unreasonable
she can be when I do tell her.
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just an FYI: Lorena was Ecuadorian (Same as my wife, who keeps a machete under the bed, BTW)!
Never good to keep secrets from your wife, no matter what they are.
I’ve always believed that if someone can hide one thing, they can hide anything. You will never truly enjoy your bass unless you come clean. What we have here is a textbook Telltale Heart scenario.
If for some reason she questions you ( like . . . .you didn't hide it well enough. . . .) show her some
"FOR SALE" ads for genuine 1952 Fender Precision Basses- and she'll be able to see that you have
saved thousands and thousands of dollars! You should get a BIG HUG!
"FOR SALE" ads for genuine 1952 Fender Precision Basses- and she'll be able to see that you have
saved thousands and thousands of dollars! You should get a BIG HUG!
