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If we put you in the same room as Victor Wooten, think he would give you crap for being a crappy bassist? No. He's a nice guy and treats everyone with respect. Just like changing the channel on your TV, if you find some situation that doesn't suit you, move on.
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Yes, exactly. I would know from the very start on, that I don't belong in the same room as Victor Wooten. Before it will even happen. Just put my bass down and listen to what he plays and learn from that. If I just had to play (what the point should be, really, having two bassist playing at the same time) I would find that a situation that doesn't suit me and I would move on.
And you bet your ass that if you put this guitarist (TwoBass's guitar player) in the same room as Victor Wooten, and Victor asked him to turn it down, he pretty sure would! Then, he complies! Not until then! Why should Victors say, have more weight than the rest of TwoBass's members?
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Thing is, that this has happened to a well known (by now) guitarist in Sweden. Although this was VERY long ago. I was in a cover band with him, and we tried to nail a Zep tune down. When we discovered that he had too much trouble with one of the simplest riffs - for someone as skilled and virtuosic as him at least - the conversation went on something like this:
Drummer went:
- Hey, why don't you try to play more like this ... (handing him a guitar..) and played it right from the start on.
Guitarist:
- Well, I think Jimmy Page sucks big time anyway. [First excuse for not wanting/being able to nailing it]
Drummer:
- Well then, a more skilled guitar player like you, should be able to nail the most inane stuff also, don't you think? I can do it, and I am not even a guitarist.
Bass player (me):
- Well, Even I can play it, you should "swing it more", try to wing it instead, not being that exact and academic about it. Showed him too at the guitar.
Of course, he went sour, that someone else, that wasn't a bona fide guitar player, could do that better than him, which made the sparks flew among us all.
None of our constructive offers, helped him, and he wasn't able (willing?) to nail it no matter how he tried. He was a shredder in all other areas. Needless to say, the collaboration ended, but in a very awkward way. All of the other members, bailed out, due to different - making up - reasons "have no time, interested in other things, offer from another band ..." including me.
It ended up that all of us left, and said to him that it was for different reasons. Half a year later, he finds us playing together again, at another place, with a different guitarist, and our make up excuses had to be
"Well, that other band I was in just fell through...". This comment came from all of us. You can either sack one member, or let everybody else leave. The thing is, that they don't detect this.
That's what it is.
But having to do it in this "roundabout way" is wasting a lot of time for everyone involved. He eventually found out, in an akward way, that we/he really didn't belong together, and that the rest of us, fancied playing together though, but without him.
The problem is, with your statement "if you find yourself in a situation that doesn't suit you, just move on..." that it is a catch 22. Is it him or us that should move on, or be able to detect what is a situation that does not suit... him? or us?
Who's band is it? His? Ours? All? There are still a lot of people who can't detect that situation, and still clings on to a dead horse, not knowing what's wrong, even if the others have to write it on his nose.
Of course, if you're the "leader" of the band, say, providing rehearsal space for free, and even owns a PA, or a van, or something else, its' him or her that's calling the shots. Just for us to leave. No big deal. I do, and did. But today, I make no qualms about WHY I leave the situation. I don't belong, and I have no scruples of telling them why. If either they suck, or I suck. Can be both ways.
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How much are you willing to cope with to stay in any band? The other members "idiosyncrasies"? Compromise in songs, cutting out a few chords, because they're too hard to play? Excess volume levels by OTHERS, together with artist excuses "You don't know, you're not a guitarist and by that thing, you can't make a judgement at all! ? You're just happy to play in any band, because you need playing (or neeed this gig) pretty band, so you can put up with anything? Picking up the drummer in the middle of the night?
In the end, it's all about how much validification, or CONFIRMATION, you seek from others. Nothing else. I generally don't seek validification. I couldn't care less. I eventually found out that being respectful to people, that ain't respectful themselves from the start on (I e excessive loud levels) doesn't help at all. I have so far, never experienced it, and I do not have the time anymore to find that out. And to just MOVE on and leave the situation isn't much of a help, since I do own the reharsal space, van, and PA. They rehearse without paying the slightest amount of anything, but their time. Save for the gas, they have to pay for getting there.
Do you want me to leave, and let the others still carry on, on my equipment, paying rent for it? At my house? And join another band in opposite part of town, with crummy rehearsal space, and have to pay rent for that space, and PA, and hiring a van when its called for? I just have to do this. Someone has to do the dirty job.
Too many "if's" here if you'd ask me. All this seems hypothetical to most of you, but to me, all this has actually happened. To me. Your Mileage May Vary. I only do conclusions from my own experiences. As always.