Part of the trade off to getting married. However, it is possible to get used to it.
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Why did @Fat Freddy cross the road?I'm now at the age when the girls offer to help me across the road!.....sigh...![]()
Sadly, can't bend down far enough to even do that these days....Why did @Fat Freddy cross the road?
So he can pick up chicks.
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For bassists this starts later, but goes on way beyond the guitarist and vocalist expiracy date.My only gripe... Why didn't this bass thing work out like this when I was a teen?!![]()

It's such a fascinating process, this whole attracting women thing.
I head out of town for a weekend to gig and I find that the bass player thing sorta kinda left a cool impression with this mid-twenties gal who was actually quite fetching.
I'll be married in a month and a half, so I gave no thought to her obvious attempts at flirting. I was nice, but let her know I am engaged. I left town still faithful, but with an honest friend, at the very least.
My only gripe... Why didn't this bass thing work out like this when I was a teen?!![]()
Maybe she thought you were James Bond?....Not bass related, but a woman hit on me 2 hours before I was going to get married.... slipped me a note saying "I don't normally do this, but there is something about you..." and asking me to call her. I was wearing my tux, for crissakes.
Maybe she thought you were James Bond?....![]()
Must have been your "Carisima"!I am not sure if, being the best day of my life, I was just that strongly personality-plus from a couple of tables over (I was grabbing lunch w/ my dad and brother), or if she knew I was getting married, and wanted to test her theory that all men are cretins.
I had a very attractive woman ask me to go to her hotel after a gig. My wife was standing next to me and the woman walked up and asked what I was doing now that the show was over. She mentioned that she had a hotel room near by. I politely told her that I was going home with my wife. She then asked about the guitar player. I said " He's over there with his wife. Why don't you go ask him". At that point she left. My wife then asked "How often does that happen?" I responded with "Not often enough or maybe once too often. It all depends on your point of view".


It's such a fascinating process, this whole attracting women thing.
I head out of town for a weekend to gig and I find that the bass player thing sorta kinda left a cool impression with this mid-twenties gal who was actually quite fetching.
I'll be married in a month and a half, so I gave no thought to her obvious attempts at flirting. I was nice, but let her know I am engaged. I left town still faithful, but with an honest friend, at the very least.
My only gripe... Why didn't this bass thing work out like this when I was a teen?!![]()
do you wear an engagement ring? i ask because many guy friends of mine have never been hit on by chicks in their lives till other women realized that they had a wife/fiance/steady girlfriend.
Nope, I don't. I didn't want one.do you wear an engagement ring? i ask because many guy friends of mine have never been hit on by chicks in their lives till other women realized that they had a wife/fiance/steady girlfriend.
......And being a shy guy back then, girls chased me.
Thanks pcake, I put my complete failure with hot girls (well any girls really) down to just being a dork, I never considered that not wearing a ring was the reason. (I never wore a ring after getting one hooked up on something and was so close to losing a finger.)do you wear an engagement ring? i ask because many guy friends of mine have never been hit on by chicks in their lives till other women realized that they had a wife/fiance/steady girlfriend.
do you wear an engagement ring? i ask because many guy friends of mine have never been hit on by chicks in their lives till other women realized that they had a wife/fiance/steady girlfriend.