1, 15 years last November. But we were in our mid-30s when we tied the knot, so I tell people we skipped the first marriage and went straight to the second!
three times, and the third time really IS the charm. this one has lasted longer than both the other marriages combined by over three times
I'm still in marriage #1. I'm not a gambling man, but if I were I would bet some enormous wager that that number never goes above 1 no matter how long I live.
This is my second and final marriage. I call my first one the "dress rehearsal". The first one had an affair with my drummer. She broke up a marriage and a rhythm section at the same time. I miss the drummer. Dude could play. This one is a keeper. She's my best friend by far. I love hanging out with her. She can eat hotter food than I can and once drank me under a table. Seriously, she's the one. I remember the first time I saw her like it was yesterday. I didn't know she would be my wife, but I knew immediately she would be involved in my life somehow and that I had to know her. The rest of her friends were all dolled up and she had her hair down and was rocking jeans and a Mt.Dew T-shirt. One of the worst shows I ever played. Rather than concentrating on playing and singing I was too busy tracking her movements throughout the room. When I asked her out her first response was "Don't get me wrong, yer pretty to look at. But musicians? Eeeeew." It took me weeks of wearing her down. September will be ten years and two kids in. I'm in love with all three of them. To this day, if she is walking toward me from across a room, and she smiles at me, I'm done. I can't even play cool. Wouldn't change a thing. It was a wild ride getting here, but I'm right where I need to be. Edit: Apologies for my earlier graphic description of the circumstances. I've been here long enough that I shoulda known better.
I’m a polygamist. I’m married to the sea and I’m married to the idea of going to a Chinese buffet for lunch!
Just once, and our 30th coming up this year. We definitely have the "team mentality" going. I wanted to get it right the first time, so I "practiced" quite a bit first.....LOL.
3 times married and divorced: one, no harm no foul; two, love of my life, procreated a son; three, 23 years, miss her every now and again. Much happier now
The divorce rate in the USA is 50%. After reading this thread, it seems the divorce rate is much lower with us bass players. It appears we are more stable than the rest of the population. Not sure why that is.
3rd time is a charm, going on 30 years. It helped that we have the same family structure, sibling count, New Orleans background(I was in a competing band, she was light babe for a band that went on to get signed with Atlantic for a few years), her brother is my age and a bass player, we met at one of my band gigs and I had pictures of my 2 sons on my amp(was really sick of groupies, unstable women, the whole game thing). I figured if pics of my sons didn't run 'em off they might be worth talking to. There exists on TB a thread about bassists being the most stable in bands.
Even a few posts into this thread I'd noticed the trend for stability...but I'm thinking maybe it's because our wives realise that us bass players just don't attract the ladies at a gig...
I was married once briefly in the 90’s, now I am coming up on six years of being very happily married to my permanent wife.
{} happy anniversary! i'm not too sure about that. i was a 'musician' before i was ever a bass player. musicians can be narcissistic, temperamental, selfish (and wonderful and thoughtful and romantic!). but: i see where you're trying to go with your assertion! good luck!
One. 17 years, all of them awful, not that there weren't good moments scattered around. I am not afraid to say 'Never again.' Even if I wanted it, which I emphatically don't, I'm pretty sure my odds are zilch.
This is one of your better posts, not saying the others aren't good but this one inspired me. I'm guessing that your wife may be your muse.
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