Nope. She encourages my hobbies and I encourage hers. I buy music/cars/electronics equipment and she buys gardening/pilates equipment. Good for mental/physical health for both of us.
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I can play again
- Thread starter Rfan
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Agreed....not a great idea to put this in writing...
Sorry dude. But you don't need to be on talk bass. You and your wife need to talk...
My wife has "never" discouraged me from playing. In fact, quite the opposite! Don't quite know how I would have handled that demand? Probably not so well! It's kinda like telling her that you don't approve of her doing something she loves to do. I guess I'd have to get em out of her purse and tell her to go somewhere for a couple of hours so I could practice. Not to be rude but, it seems pretty selfish to me. Sorry for your delema!
it was never a problem....luckily my wife was also a musician.......but if it were, well its divorce, compromise, or the couch!!
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My wife and I have been married for 23 years. I have a bass room in our finished basement where I play with the door closed. She can hear it but doesn't mind because I'm not loud. I told her about this thread and she thought it was weird. She said people need to have hobbies. I have a great wife. 
Been there done that, although not to the degree of being forbidden to play. My ex attempted to be controlling, saying my being in my music room was the same as me not being home at all, all the while, she would spend hours per day away from home training for her triathlon stuff.
It took a very short time for me to say “screw that”.
If this is a real thread, and not just a troll, then you need to go first thing Monday morning and file for divorce, it is not normal, or okay, or “just how she is”. She is manipulating you until she is done with you, then SHE will divorce YOU.
It took a very short time for me to say “screw that”.
If this is a real thread, and not just a troll, then you need to go first thing Monday morning and file for divorce, it is not normal, or okay, or “just how she is”. She is manipulating you until she is done with you, then SHE will divorce YOU.
Sadly, such relationships are kind of common.
But that doesn't make them healthy, or "normal"... UNLESS both people LIKE it this way, I guess.
I've met plenty of people who are not happy unless someone or something else identifiable is "making them miserable"... as if it provides them with meaning and context, the challenge againt which they struggle in the drama they write in their heads.
I don't understand this, but I have seen it.
I could not live like that.
But that doesn't make them healthy, or "normal"... UNLESS both people LIKE it this way, I guess.
I've met plenty of people who are not happy unless someone or something else identifiable is "making them miserable"... as if it provides them with meaning and context, the challenge againt which they struggle in the drama they write in their heads.
I don't understand this, but I have seen it.
I could not live like that.
I think it's real. Marriage can be very difficult. At times my wife has been quite awful. At times I was a nightmare.
The only way out of these dark times is to push through. It helps to have common goals like raising great kids and eventual retirement.
Although I set my foot down about music a long time ago. "You will have to pry this bass from my cold dead fingers".
Try it!
Quoth Jordan Peterson; "Just have the damn fight!"
Not our business. Sounds a lot like your wife does not care for you. Make of this what you will because nobody else is in your shoes.
Talk about ghost notes!
Her demands are bassless, which is baseless in my book.
Damn, my wife only bought me a Sadowsky NYC, a Musicman old smoothie, a Serek, a Wilcock and a Moollon P. I'm pissed! And the fact that she lets me buy any other bass I want...now I'm really pissed.
Sorry for your circumstance. I don’t think you’ll get an extra life where you will be free to play your bass when and where you want, so you might want to evaluate your life’s priorities and adjust appropriately.
