I thought health care was free in Canada. Maybe they owe you some money?
I was a bit unclear in my initial post. The real issue is that my wife has had health issues and unable to work for 10 or so months and my salary isn't enough to cover all of our expenses.
We've already made a lot of cuts to our lifestyle to help (no more eating out, packing lunches, cheap groceries, nothing extra, no more jamming and paying for rehearsal spaces, no more strings, etc) but it only took us so far.
I was trying to find a secondary job months ago but my wife flatly refused it (and she still is). She doesn't think that losing the house is that big of a deal and would rather me have the weekends to relax, but feeding the bank $20k just because we couldn't make it to the 5 year mark is my main deterent. Also, we adopted a few animals before this happened, and will have to put some of them up for adoption if we have to move to an apartment, which I don't want to do all.
We're at the point now where I don't want to ask our in-laws to help any further and my career pay check alone is still not enough. It seems now the only thing we can unload that we can't afford is the house.
It seems we'll have to sell it unless my wife can find a job in the next few weeks (she is better now, but taking a 10 month health leave seems to be a red flag to possible employers).
This whole situation has pissed me off... Maybe it's my ego, but I hate that I have to rely on my wife working. I hate borrowing off of her parents who can't really afford to help us either. I'm not the provider I'd like to be... Should have been smarter during and after high school. I aimed for a middle class job with limited room for promotion. Then again, at the time I never wanted to get married and was fine not owning a house, then I met my wife and everything flipped upside down.
Anyways, I'm rambling now. I'm not at home at the moment but will take some time and dig through these comments a bit more. I appreciate everyone's advice.