Sounds like the solution to your problem is play more with other musicians, since you rarely get to... Can you find anyone near where you live that you can play with more regularly, even just a guitarist or pianist?
No, unfortunately there is no one. I've been looking for several years. If I want to play 70s rock, folk, country or irish, there's "more" opportunity. That's not saying much though. That's why I breakdown and drive down to Jersey for my fix every 2 months or so.
Anyone have an ideas about which fancy metronome to buy?
Ric
