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music is an aphrodesiac

skygzr

skygzr

Feb 23, 2015
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#1
I didn't start playing bass so girls would talk to me, but damn if that isn't what happened. As a fairly awkward adolescent, it was intoxicating. Girls smell good when you get up close to them. Who knew?

If you have power, notoriety or make your living on the stage, you get groupies. It seems to transcend genre or discipline. There's certainly downsides, like unwanted attention or being too immature to deal with it. You should be required to take "Dealing With Fans" classes along side bass lessons.

Most of us here are probably heterosexual males, but I bet a dollar it works no matter who you are or which way you're plugged in. Bless you, music.

No real conclusions, other than it doesn't happen quite as much fifty years later ;-)
 
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I find that "make music to get women" trope funny. I can count on one hand the people who have ever approached me, and they were 100% male and most of the time fellow musicians.

The same goes for just about every musician I have ever met. None of them have ever had any encounters just because they were up on stage. Must be a Euro thing. We don't dance to music, either.
 
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skygzr said:
I didn't start playing bass so girls would talk to me, but damn if that isn't what happened. As a fairly awkward adolescent, it was intoxicating. Girls smell good when you get up close to them. Who knew?

If you have power, notoriety or make your living on the stage, you get groupies. It seems to transcend genre or discipline. There's certainly downsides, like unwanted attention or being too immature to deal with it. You should be required to take "Dealing With Fans" classes along side bass lessons.

Most of us here are probably heterosexual males, but I bet a dollar it works no matter who you are or which way you're plugged in. Bless you, music.

No real conclusions, other than it doesn't happen quite as much fifty years later ;-)
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Where are my fans and groupies and unwanted attention?
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I didn’t start playing in bands to meet women, but I’d be lying if I said I didn’t like the attention. Performing gave me more confidience. If you can get up on a stage in front of an audience and not collapse from stage fright, well, you can’t help but gain self confidence, and everybody appreciates confidence in people.
 
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The only "benefit from a Lady" I ever got was a three piece set of Hot Pads an Old Lady gave to me as I was rolling my cab out to the car.

She said, "Thank you for playing, here are some Hot Pads I made." and she places them on top of my cab, "Thank you." I said then continued across the parking lot to pack the car.


Pics or it did not happen.
Here are two of them, the third is being used at another location.
(Yes, the Coffee Pot and Stand Mixer are pink.)

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Hmm. My experience was always the drummers, singers, and guitarists got the chicks. I always got the sweaty dudes that asked me about my slap technique and what the settings are on my amp. Maybe I was doing it wrong all those years.

I guess I did something right cuz eventually I married a beautiful lawyer so maybe in retrospect I did everything right.
 
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Ostie said:
I didn’t start playing in bands to meet women, but I’d be lying if I said I didn’t like the attention. Performing gave me more confidience. If you can get up on a stage in front of an audience and not collapse from stage fright, well, you can’t help but gain self confidence, and everybody appreciates confidence in people.
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What an astute observation.
 
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Nashrakh said:
I find that "make music to get women" trope funny. I can count on one hand the people who have ever approached me, and they were 100% male and most of the time fellow musicians.

The same goes for just about every musician I have ever met. None of them have ever had any encounters just because they were up on stage. Must be a Euro thing. We don't dance to music, either.
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I have been playing for over 40 years and have been approached by more women than I can count. Even now at the age of 58 it still happens. (I look much younger. Most people figure I am around 40). One time a woman who appeared to be around 35 years old approached me and told me she was in town on business, had a hotel room close by and asked me what I was doing after the show. The funny thing is that my wife was standing right beside me. I told the woman that I was going home with my wife. Then, she asked what my guitar player was doing. She walked away and my wife asked me how often this happens. I said "Not often enough or maybe once too often. It really depends on you point of view". My wife has a great sense of humor and wasn't bothered by it. Another time a woman ran up to me, wrapped her arms around my neck and gave me a kiss on the cheek. She asked to take a picture with me and made it her Facebook profile picture. My wife laughed about that too. She knows that I won't cheat on her. We've been married for over 30 years.
 
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Ostie said:
I didn’t start playing in bands to meet women, but I’d be lying if I said I didn’t like the attention. Performing gave me more confidience. If you can get up on a stage in front of an audience and not collapse from stage fright, well, you can’t help but gain self confidence, and everybody appreciates confidence in people.
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Performance gave me more confidence, too. I'm introverted by nature, and approaching or talking to women was always difficult for me outside of the gigs. After I was put in musical situations where they started approaching me, conversation became easier.

My wife is the first woman I ever dated that I didn't meet at a gig. Prior to that, everyone I dated was someone I met at a gig. Not "groupies," but sometimes just women who happened to be at the club and dig the show. I only dated a couple who were legitimately fans of my original band's music, and it was a bit weird both times.
 
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Well known male enhancement is being a musician. Extra points for being a singer and player. That was not my motivation for pursuing music, but I picked up on its attraction. Bass is at the low end of the scale per surveys, so its associative that hounds end up singers, drummers and pickers.
 
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S-Bigbottom said:
The only "benefit from a Lady" I ever got was a three piece set of Hot Pads an Old Lady gave to me as I was rolling my cab out to the car.

She said, "Thank you for playing, here are some Hot Pads I made." and she places them on top of my cab, "Thank you." I said then continued across the parking lot to pack the car.


Pics or it did not happen.
Here are two of them, the third is being used at another location.
(Yes, the Coffee Pot and Stand Mixer are pink.)

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Nice hotpads.

I have nothing else to add to this thread.
 
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