And that, succinctly stated, is the problem.
Not always. My ex girlfriend is living proof.
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Musicians and their women (RANT)
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Not always. My ex girlfriend is living proof.
I think a few 'Borderline women' think that a musicians lifestyle is one where they might 'blend in' quirks unnoticed/ or 'in common', or they just consider musicians as sensitive suckers and easy to operate.......or they might just like you, but are not equipped to do anything about their 'issues' to make it work or maybe they just want to check you out in the sack?......
Or they're just casing your place so their 'Real' boyfriend can beat you/steal your kit....I have a tale/s of an acquaintance being lured to a 'I'll watch you with mine' situation (why he went with this..who knows) and receive a severe beating that wasn't in that equation beforehand, not as far as he knew..... until he tried to leave.....just be careful with women at gigs...just be careful with women in general ; )
Or they're just casing your place so their 'Real' boyfriend can beat you/steal your kit....I have a tale/s of an acquaintance being lured to a 'I'll watch you with mine' situation (why he went with this..who knows) and receive a severe beating that wasn't in that equation beforehand, not as far as he knew..... until he tried to leave.....just be careful with women at gigs...just be careful with women in general ; )
"Hot + available frequently = crazy"
My own father tried to warn me about a girl that was 5 years older than me, obviously marriage hungry, yet still single, and drop dead gorgeous. Self image issues (wore makeup no matter what. Waking up in the morning came complete with hiding under a pillow and running to the bathroom to spend 15 minutes applying more makeup), social issues, and about an hour and a half late everywhere. That turned into extreme jealousy, pressure, and projecting that body image problem on me.
"There's no room for two drama queens"
If that means I'm #2, or anyone in a crazy relationship is, try ducking under thrown lamps, pulling all nighters arguing, wondering if your sigo should be diagnosed, or if what they're already diagnosed with is just a ticket to go apeshart.
What I'm saying is, anyone who knows me says i'm peaceful and laid back. I don't ask for much, but offer plenty, and i'm very non-confrontational (probably to a fault). When all this stuff goes down, you're thinking two things... Is my bass safe, and why on earth would me being late cause you to pull out your hair? It's easy not to see it coming... and it seems they see us coming.
My own father tried to warn me about a girl that was 5 years older than me, obviously marriage hungry, yet still single, and drop dead gorgeous. Self image issues (wore makeup no matter what. Waking up in the morning came complete with hiding under a pillow and running to the bathroom to spend 15 minutes applying more makeup), social issues, and about an hour and a half late everywhere. That turned into extreme jealousy, pressure, and projecting that body image problem on me.
"There's no room for two drama queens"
If that means I'm #2, or anyone in a crazy relationship is, try ducking under thrown lamps, pulling all nighters arguing, wondering if your sigo should be diagnosed, or if what they're already diagnosed with is just a ticket to go apeshart.
What I'm saying is, anyone who knows me says i'm peaceful and laid back. I don't ask for much, but offer plenty, and i'm very non-confrontational (probably to a fault). When all this stuff goes down, you're thinking two things... Is my bass safe, and why on earth would me being late cause you to pull out your hair? It's easy not to see it coming... and it seems they see us coming.
I say never look outside yourself for something or someone to fix your issues or your life. Recognize that you are the one that makes choices about who you spend time with/get involved with/etc. If you've got yourself in order, then your relationships are automatically better.
I believe expressive people *don't* need some sort of catalyst, etc., in their life, as you mentioned before, actually. That might just be an easy way to not have to look inward for inspiration when necessary. I also think you can find intelligent, well-read music appreciators if you shake up where you are looking for them. Are their free concerts at the local university or something? Probably meet a hot flute player or something...
I believe expressive people *don't* need some sort of catalyst, etc., in their life, as you mentioned before, actually. That might just be an easy way to not have to look inward for inspiration when necessary. I also think you can find intelligent, well-read music appreciators if you shake up where you are looking for them. Are their free concerts at the local university or something? Probably meet a hot flute player or something...
Yeah. Problem is that I am divorced with kids, and while I want to introduce her to the kids as soon as possible, my daughter is having a lot of problems in school right now that stem from being upset about the fact that her mom and I are no longer together.
So, I asked her to give me some time to defuse the situation with my daughter, and to be honest I really don't want to rush into something and have it fall apart.
So, she flipped out last night, telling me that I wasn't giving her a chance, that I was feeding her a line of BS, and that kids are resilient and can deal with it. This is after weeks of supportive behavior. It was almost like a switch flipped in her head.
So, now I'm starting to wonder if she is someone that I want around the kids in the first place.
Has anyone ever told her she looks like Ali Larter, albeit a younger version?
Exactly. Despite trying to explain it to her, she still isn't grasping that it doesn't matter if it's her or someone else, my kids come first. If I don't think the kids are ready to meet her, then that's that, she needs to be patient.
Now I'm thinking that it's not a good idea to continue.
its like the chicken or the egg argument here.
do crazy chicks date musicians (are musicians attracted to crazy chicks)
or do musicians make them crazy. . .
unfortunately the answer is yes.
like the original post artsy brunettes are a weakness of mine too. add green eyes and i cant stay away. im like a moth to flame.
i broke up with the ex gf about 4 months ago. she had more family/emotional drama than anyone i have ever met.
it was fun while it lasted but more fun now that im single again.
do crazy chicks date musicians (are musicians attracted to crazy chicks)
or do musicians make them crazy. . .
unfortunately the answer is yes.
like the original post artsy brunettes are a weakness of mine too. add green eyes and i cant stay away. im like a moth to flame.
i broke up with the ex gf about 4 months ago. she had more family/emotional drama than anyone i have ever met.
it was fun while it lasted but more fun now that im single again.
Sit her down and talk to her about it. Maybe there's some justifiable reason why she feels this way. If not, then it might be good to call it off.
Oh, there are reasons. Basically, she loves kids and wants a family, but never could have children of her own. She expected to be a part of their lives the minute she was a part of mine, but at the moment that's not going to work.
We had this discussion a few times, and every time she says that she's ok with my decision. Last night she upped the heat a bit by getting huffy about it, almost like she's trying to bully me into a decision that she likes.
I think tonight I'm going to have to lay this thing out for her, and give her the choice. Either she respects my wishes regarding the kids, or we are done.
I've been with mine for 10 years, now she is going through menopause. It's a level of insanity that can't even be measured. from minute to minute I have no idea whats next.
There are situations (ahem) where it's perfectly fine to be crazy. Others not. It's important not to assume that the latter implies the former. You just have to steer clear of bat**** crazy or numbingly depressive.
On the other hand, I'm fugly enough that a girl simply needs to be crazy to like me. Is this your situation?
Lucky me, I date a down to earth, artistic brunette I totally don't deserve.
On the other hand, I'm fugly enough that a girl simply needs to be crazy to like me. Is this your situation?
Lucky me, I date a down to earth, artistic brunette I totally don't deserve.
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Occam's razor would argue that the likelihood of you being attracted to dramatic women seems a more likely situation than every woman being a drama case.
Not saying they're not all nuts, mind you, but there's clearly a continuum that ranges from occasional moodiness and purse and show fetishes all the way to cutting off your junk with scissors while you sleep.
Plus, I'm assuming that you're dating within the confines of Florida. Nothing good comes of that.
Not saying they're not all nuts, mind you, but there's clearly a continuum that ranges from occasional moodiness and purse and show fetishes all the way to cutting off your junk with scissors while you sleep.
Plus, I'm assuming that you're dating within the confines of Florida. Nothing good comes of that.
My girlfriend is a creative type that is an amazing musician, hot, and we just click. The best part is that she treats me better than I have ever been treated in my life and I treat her the same way. We are committed to continue doing that. The trick is finding the girl who's crazy, actually meshes with your personality.
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Well, we've been together over a year and a half. In that time we've had about as many fights as my ex-wife and I had in a week. It helps that she's also my best friend and that we're both strong individuals whose lives are not defined by each other. I'll be sure to update you in two years when everything is as peachy keen as it is now.
as a casual observer, you need to put a ring on that girl's finger. if you don't, someone else will.
So far this thread has been very predictable.
OP - Chicks are crazy. About 10 posts saying yep. About 10 posts saying 'not mine'. About 5 posts saying I don't have a chick with various degrees of smuggery, and the obligatory 5 post where Matticus turns the conversation into a bragfest about his chick, my post on asian chicks, and a few random posts.
OP - Chicks are crazy. About 10 posts saying yep. About 10 posts saying 'not mine'. About 5 posts saying I don't have a chick with various degrees of smuggery, and the obligatory 5 post where Matticus turns the conversation into a bragfest about his chick, my post on asian chicks, and a few random posts.
