my girlfriend rudely surpised me

[Buslady7803]

WHA?!?!? Chuck 'er out the door! Find one who'll appreciate your talent. Jeesh...

 

[guyman1966]

Have her sit on your amp and then go to work on your bass. Lets see if you can use your guitar to find her groove

 

[Slaine01]

hold your right hand up in front of her - now move your index and middle fingers like your playing 16th notes, and tell her you can do that for 3 hours.
She just needs to realise just how lucky she is.

 

[BananaKing]

I'd tell her the minute she could outperform me on any instrument, I might pay attention to her opinion on playing one.

Best quote here.

Also, ask her to do it (like has been suggested before). If she can't do it, say that it "Must be sad to know that you can't even match an idiot. Wonder what that makes you?"

 

[Nashrakh]

Girl is a tsundere - keep her.

 

[lavmonga]

No pics, no girlfriend.

 

[REAPER52]

I think what she did is completly unacceptable .If she disrespects you in front of others ,i would have great concerns . That simply would not happen in my world. Most of the comments here seem to be in jest. But if i had an OL that did that it wouldnt happen twice.

 

[PunkSweeper]

If she really wasn't joking, she thinks you're stupid. She won't want to learn about groove or song anchoring from you.

I say pretend to dump her, and see how she reacts. Then make your decision.


P.S.-Make SURE it wasn't endearing banter.

 

[MarkusBass]

I wouldn't tolerate something that rude, especially in public like that. Dump that ho.

This.

 

[Ewo]

my girlfriend yells out,

"its too bad he doesnt have enough brain capacity to play guitar!"

Might be a girl who said that, but it sure wasn't your friend.

Capisce?

 

[REAPER52]

A deliberate negative comment made in public about something I am? We'd be split before she could finish her next sentence- she wouldn't even get a ride home. If she'd said it in jest, the OP would have gotten that message and not started this thread. But a good woman (a woman worth loving) doesn't mock her man's craft anyhow, in any way.

I freely admit that part of it's just me- I don't even know what it's like to be so whipped that I have to ask an internet forum for advice when I can simply cancel the future with one woman and find a replacement within hours.

Same here -she would have been gone before the string stopped vibrating. But i never would have been in that position-i would not have been around her kind in the first place.

 

[mcapote]

I wouldnt tell her **** she obviously has no respect for you and if you put up with it we know who the bitch in the relationship is.

 

[Chunk-O-Funk]

If it wasn't said in jest she doesn't respect what you do and more than likely it's going to get worse.

Just my opinion. I don't know you or her.
I do know that a woman who doesn't respect you will do things like that.

 

[paul_s]

Her comment should bother you, because it's wholly offensive. Dump her, you'll only regret it down the line if you let her begin to walk all over you with comments that disgrace your intelligence and hobbies. Relationships require respect, she doesn't have any for you if she makes comments along these lines.

 

[whitedk57]

I think what she did is completly unacceptable .If she disrespects you in front of others ,i would have great concerns . That simply would not happen in my world. Most of the comments here seem to be in jest. But if i had an OL that did that it wouldnt happen twice.

+1

What every man desires is unfailing love and respect. When a woman is disrespectful, it is a violation of what a man most desires - respect...

 

[PB&J]

Dump her. You can't date someone who doesn't respect what you do and if you ever have tied finances buying gear will be next to impossible.

 

[Gord_oh]

ok guys, in all seriousness.
her comment did in fact bother me.
i knew she was joking, but it still wasnt very respectful.

but some of the responses here were not what i was expecting.
they were worse than her original comment.

im not going to dump her, or bruise her up, its not worth it.
ill play bass like i always have and show her that im not a "failed guitarist",
or "lacking brain capacity".

i can prove my point by showing her what i can do behind a bass,
not by dumping her or smacking her.

i expected some better posts from you TB.

 

[Gord_oh]

it was one comment.
a joking one at that.
we are fine, and im keeping it that way.

 

[Gord_oh]

she understands why im upset,
and she has apologized for her remark.
get up and move on.

 

[RBrownBass]

ok guys, in all seriousness.
her comment did in fact bother me.
i knew she was joking, but it still wasnt very respectful.

but some of the responses here were not what i was expecting.
they were worse than her original comment.

im not going to dump her, or bruise her up, its not worth it.
ill play bass like i always have and show her that im not a "failed guitarist",
or "lacking brain capacity".

i can prove my point by showing her what i can do behind a bass,
not by dumping her or smacking her.

i expected some better posts from you TB.

She took you to the woodshed in public for playing an instrument you love. Friend, ain't no point you can prove that she wants to understand.

You're here explaining to us why you keep this trick in your life. That says to me maybe the two of you are compatible after all.

Ever considered playing guitar? I bet she'd like you more...