Well you did post it on one of the most outspoken forums around. If it bothers you, then by all means have a talk with her. If you guys are serious, and you're serious about her, you should be able to talk to her about it.
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my girlfriend rudely surpised me
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she laughed at this.
im not bothered by the posts, she is a little more sensitive than i, but i did expected more positive than what was posted.
i was hoping for some debate, instead of it being so one sided.
she prefers me playing bass over guitar anyway.
even though the sound through an amp gives her headaches,
she knows i love it.
Tell her about your feelings. If she loves you she will get it. Then have her sit in while you are running scales. Talk to her about the construction of the bass, how all the woods and electronics interact with each other to create amazing notes. Then introduce her to some of your influences. Take her to see some other bands and let her see how good you really are by comparison. The let her discover how big a turd most guitarists are to the band, the public, and to their girlfriends. In time, she will get it. The more she knows, understands, and feels included, the more proud she will be of your ablility. If that doesnt work,
...jk. If she loves you she will be curious about all that interests you, even if only fleeting
...jk. If she loves you she will be curious about all that interests you, even if only fleeting
I would normally advise the same thing Irish.. but since he "loves" her, I would assume that they have been together long enough for
A: her to understand how much bass means to him
B: how not to be a bitch
A: her to understand how much bass means to him
B: how not to be a bitch
Well said! I bet most of the guys making these aggressive and borderline abusive comments are single!
you expected more positive post than what was posted. I think what you got was a look at what people Positively thought . and it could of easily got alot worse if it wasnt for the Respect for this forum. There Is No Excuse For Disrespecting Your SO
this is appreciated. this is what i was looking for.
+1
i build, and she has heard, and paid attention to me talking about my gear and how everything meshes together.
you got half of it right.
be nice.
I have a wonderful wife who understands nothing about my obsession with playing bass, but she loves me and endures it. She's always respectful. When I was putting the money together for her engagement ring, she told me she didn't need a rock, to get something that I liked and get the Geddy Lee I had been wanting. So I bought her a very nice quality smaller stone, and got the Geddy Lee. She even named it "Baby". Now she encourages me to go to the music store, work on my scales, and take it to my friend who is a tech for set up. She's even helping me figure a way to get a Rickenbacker, even after getting laid off from her job. In return, I go beyond to make sure she is happy and loved and appreciated. Not bragging, but I just understand what love means.
If you don't take your own advice you'll prove true what she said. And that's a fact, Jack.
...you...let ..your partner...read our... "secret boys club" .....posts!
I feel kinda ...violated now.............
Like when your mom walks in on you while your.......
I feel kinda ...violated now.............
Like when your mom walks in on you while your.......
wait... you're telling ME to be nice? I'm not the one that berated you and insulted the thing you love in public.
wow.. maybe she was on to something.
wow.. maybe she was on to something.
She's going to laugh at something else eventually
and no one will say "I told you so" because you'll be too embarrassed to post it here after ignoring the advice you got the first time. EDIT: Wait... You chose to share that with me because she scratched you behind the ears and told you she was sowwy. If she's cool with you, that's all that matters, I suppose, but...
... still, I tend to agree with this.
You expected better posts?
You'll be proving your point by showing her what you can do behind a vacuum cleaner while she watches TV.
I wouldn't let her publicly embarrass you like that. Whether you believe what she's saying or not. (You obviously don't believe it). But still, you need some level of respect from her
The point isn't what she said about bass. The point is that she completely disrespected you in public. Imagine the reaction YOU would have gotten if you did something like that to HER.
I don't know why guys let stuff like this go when they'd be kicked to the curb for doing the same thing. As a group, we need to show some respect for ourselves and refuse to put up with crap like this. What, they're women so we're supposed to suck it up? That's hardly a way to be treated by or to treat the person you supposedly love.
I don't know why guys let stuff like this go when they'd be kicked to the curb for doing the same thing. As a group, we need to show some respect for ourselves and refuse to put up with crap like this. What, they're women so we're supposed to suck it up? That's hardly a way to be treated by or to treat the person you supposedly love.
Gord oh, you kind of brought this on yourself. I believe (and I hope I'm right) that the guys saying to smack her around ARE just joking. But what you view as negativity (regarding the "dump her" sentiment) is really a lot of guys trying to be helpful.
I think you're minimizing the importance of blatant disrespect. What she did to you in public was not only disrespectful - it was cruel and uncaring. There are too many women out there for you to accept such shoddy treatment. It's a matter of common courtesy. Those people who are saying you should dump her are actually trying to be helpful. They're saying you should find somebody who would love AND respect you. If you should ever find yourself in a long-term relationship with somebody who doesn't treat you with respect, you can pretty much expect a miserable existence. All IMHO, of course...
Haha, all of you need to hang around music majors more. This is normal talk between peers and girlfriends/boyfriends. Gord Oh, what does she play?
+1 to JeffK, my answer of dump her comes from experience, no girl who tears you down in public like that is worth hanging around because there are simply so many more women out there that are better than that, and comprehend the meaning of respect!
Apologies are easy, anyone can make them; however it takes a certain kind of person to make genuinely insulting remarks to their significant other in public, the vast majority of people don't do that. There's a difference between good natured ribbing, which is not what I'm talking about, and comments at your expense (your intelligence, your hobby, et cetera).
Apologies are easy, anyone can make them; however it takes a certain kind of person to make genuinely insulting remarks to their significant other in public, the vast majority of people don't do that. There's a difference between good natured ribbing, which is not what I'm talking about, and comments at your expense (your intelligence, your hobby, et cetera).
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