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My Situation
- Thread starter Slapp Addict
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Man, I didn't read the whole thread but let me give you my advice.
I don't know you, you don't know me and the internet is a pretty weird place to ask advice for in those kinds of situations.
The only thing I can tell you is to get over it!!!
Relationships fail all the time, your story is not uncommon and it happens to a lot of people, it only looks worse than it is right now because you suffer from your affective dependence to this girl.
Don't go around screwing girls just to get over it, that's escaping the problem and not resovling it at all. Just go on, live your life and in a month or two, it'll get less and less worse until you go back to feeling good, not because someones loves you, just good about you.
When you get dumped by a girl you love very much, you feel like ****, loose all the confidence you have and just don't want to do anything else.
It's your first serious breakup, you'll have many others through your life, some better some worst than what you feel right now, you'll probably even hurt some girls by dumping them, it's just life.
Just go on without her, if one day she comes back, I hope it'll be when you get over it, so you can judge it from a perspective and see if it's worth it.
Trust me on this, there is not a thing in the world dumber than a person in love, it's like a drug addiction, you would do anything, you believe bullshhhh that is obviously false but you take it anyway because it's easier to believe. Right now, you are bassicly putting yourself in the position of a carpet and letting her walk all over you.
Trust me man, in a few months you'll think about this and find it pathetic.
Keep your head up, be a man about it, take the hit and even if your heart tells you otherwise try to stay logic and everything will be fine.
I don't know you, you don't know me and the internet is a pretty weird place to ask advice for in those kinds of situations.
The only thing I can tell you is to get over it!!!
Relationships fail all the time, your story is not uncommon and it happens to a lot of people, it only looks worse than it is right now because you suffer from your affective dependence to this girl.
Don't go around screwing girls just to get over it, that's escaping the problem and not resovling it at all. Just go on, live your life and in a month or two, it'll get less and less worse until you go back to feeling good, not because someones loves you, just good about you.
When you get dumped by a girl you love very much, you feel like ****, loose all the confidence you have and just don't want to do anything else.
It's your first serious breakup, you'll have many others through your life, some better some worst than what you feel right now, you'll probably even hurt some girls by dumping them, it's just life.
Just go on without her, if one day she comes back, I hope it'll be when you get over it, so you can judge it from a perspective and see if it's worth it.
Trust me on this, there is not a thing in the world dumber than a person in love, it's like a drug addiction, you would do anything, you believe bullshhhh that is obviously false but you take it anyway because it's easier to believe. Right now, you are bassicly putting yourself in the position of a carpet and letting her walk all over you.
Trust me man, in a few months you'll think about this and find it pathetic.
Keep your head up, be a man about it, take the hit and even if your heart tells you otherwise try to stay logic and everything will be fine.
I may be talking tough, but it crushed me, 10 years later I am still a little bitter...
but it gets better and the only way you will get over her is to forget about her and keep on keeping on.
I find gettin with other girls really helped.
You just had the same girlfriend from the point you were old enough to have one. You developped a big big need of her in your life, relied on her for feeling good about yourself. Now, since you never have been single long enough to fill your needs yourself without depending on someone else you feel like a part of you has been missing and that is false.
I read the thread, and now I can tell you that your situation is nothing special, yes it's worst than a 15 yo couple breaking up after dating for two months but there are things far more horrible in life. So stop acting like it's the end of the world, it's not, you just need to get over it.
Now be a man, stay single for a while and learn to fill your needs yourself, to build up your confidence yourself, that is called developping as an adult.
Once you do that, you can think about being in a healthy relationship. Relying on someone to fill your need is not healthy and will always lead to yourself suffering.
Welcome to reality man.
I read the thread, and now I can tell you that your situation is nothing special, yes it's worst than a 15 yo couple breaking up after dating for two months but there are things far more horrible in life. So stop acting like it's the end of the world, it's not, you just need to get over it.
Now be a man, stay single for a while and learn to fill your needs yourself, to build up your confidence yourself, that is called developping as an adult.
Once you do that, you can think about being in a healthy relationship. Relying on someone to fill your need is not healthy and will always lead to yourself suffering.
Welcome to reality man.
I thought that was just called "marriage".
Yeah,
you can read it as follow:
Marriage is unhealthy and will always lead to suffering.
Just kiddin' of course...
This could totally go off into one of those Chappelle "keepin' it real" skits.....totally.
-Mike
If that's the case, then you're doing fine. There are plenty of guys around here (Jady, Gard, Cheese, myself, etc., etc...) who have been through much worse and have moved on to happier places.
jive1
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Since TB seems to be so big on clubs, maybe you all should create a new TB club...."we got dumped, but we still survived" club? It would be an awesome thread to watch you jokers argue about who would be member #1.
-Mike
But wouldn't, by default, everyone be in this club?
Well, exept for geeks that never had girlfriends... of course
Nope, but this is
Obviously you've compensated for your dejection from being dumped by former girlfriends by getting back at them by sculpting your body with White Castle sliders. In fact, you almost look like a White Castle slider.
The next few weeks are going to be like a war with yourself, brother. You may not want to move on. You may not want to do anything but sit around and cry yourself to sleep. But you have to force yourself to try and get outside and meet someone else. It will be one of the most difficult things you've ever done, but you have to do it. It's a war.
Take it from me. I have Major Depressive Disorder. What you're feeling isn't even a FRACTION of what I've gone through in the past few years. But here I am, still alive. You'll make it, too.
Just put your head down and pound through it.
Take it from me. I have Major Depressive Disorder. What you're feeling isn't even a FRACTION of what I've gone through in the past few years. But here I am, still alive. You'll make it, too.
Just put your head down and pound through it.
Well he's in luck. I just happen to be the founder of the International Bank of Spank.
That's not anything I personally want to revisit. I'm happy now, no need to bring it back up...even if I go through divvy #2 (and NO, I do not expect to), I won't bring up #1, I'll just move FORWARD.
I'd be willing to wager that the rest on the list will say the same, right guys?
