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Nothing is douchey

mellowinman

mellowinman

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Oct 19, 2011
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#1
I've seen a number of things brought up:

  • Shirtless
  • Sunglasses on stage
  • Talking in a fake British Accent
  • Wearing your bass really low
etc.


Any of these things could be considered "douchey" by the players on this board, but in and of themselves, they really aren't.


By that, I mean, they could work. I am not fashion conscious. Last I heard, wearing your hair like it's 1973 isn't considered that cool, and wearing fringe leather jackets isn't cool either, and I shouldn't wear a straw cowboy hat because Bret Michaels ruined that, and I shouldn't wear tank tops, or tight shirts, either.


But I am myself, and I will be myself, and no one will ever be able to tell me that isn't cool, because it is.
 
#3
I think there's a line. The fact that you are not "fashion concious" means you can wear stuff and it not to be douchey, because you are just being yourself.

Talking in a fake accent is not yourself, and so is douchey. Wearing sunglasses on a dark stage is not being reasonable, and therefore douchey.

Also, I think it all comes within a reasonable limit. I wear my bass low, in part, because it looks better; we are performers. I don't wear it so my bass rubs my shoe laces. Is it wearing it a little low for aesthetics douchey? I don't think so. But going beyond the bounds of reasonability would make it so.

And it depends on context. Phil Anselmo seldom wore a shirt, but I'd hazard a guess to say not many people had a problem with that. If a 16 year old in a Justin Bieber tribute band did it, that would probably be douchey.
 
#4
Actually one thing I think IS douchey is all these threads calling what other people do douchey.

Live and let live; quit judging everybody else; quit worrying about what the other guy (or gal) is doing; you'll be happier and as will be the people around you.
 
#7
lfmn16 said:
Actually one thing I think IS douchey is all these threads calling what other people do douchey.

Live and let live; quit judging everybody else; quit worrying about what the other guy (or gal) is doing; you'll be happier and as will be the people around you.
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I agree that how you dress, how you talk, your choice in footwear, hair style, etc.... are personal preference. Personally, I don't care what you do when it comes to that.

Where I feel fine judging someone as "douchey" is when they do something to someone on stage which is meant to embarrass or demean another person and flaunt their own ego. When that happens, I'd love to have a big rubber stamp with "DOUCHE" on it and affix the label to their forehead.
 
#8
mellowinman said:
I've seen a number of things brought up:

  • Shirtless
  • Sunglasses on stage
  • Talking in a fake British Accent
  • Wearing your bass really low
etc.


Any of these things could be considered "douchey" by the players on this board, but in and of themselves, they really aren't.


By that, I mean, they could work. I am not fashion conscious. Last I heard, wearing your hair like it's 1973 isn't considered that cool, and wearing fringe leather jackets isn't cool either, and I shouldn't wear a straw cowboy hat because Bret Michaels ruined that, and I shouldn't wear tank tops, or tight shirts, either.


But I am myself, and I will be myself, and no one will ever be able to tell me that isn't cool, because it is.
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+1

Do what you like. I've got long hair, earrings, tattoos, a fringe suede jacket.... The list goes on. Is any of that "cool"? Probably not. Is it Douchebaggery? Who cares?

It is what I like though, and that's really all that matters to me ;) Life's short, do what makes you happy.
 
#11
I don't know. I have to draw the line somewhere, but I kind of stop short of posting it on Internet forums. My interpretation of what is " douchey" will vary widely from someone else's, so it's all kind of pointless (and I think meant to be funny).

I'm a live and let live kind of guy and inhabit my own space. As long as what you are doing is not hurting me or my family (within reason), go ahead and be as "douchey" as you want to be.
 
#13
ProgRocker said:
+1

Do what you like. I've got long hair, earrings, tattoos, a fringe suede jacket.... The list goes on. Is any of that "cool"? Probably not. Is it Douchebaggery? Who cares?

It is what I like though, and that's really all that matters to me ;) Life's short, do what makes you happy.
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Yep...life is too short to worry about what others think. Perhaps a little perspective. It is douchey to steal and lie. It is not douchey to dress up a bit and entertain a crowd for the evening.
 
#15
I like tank-tops and muscle-shirts. Our band doesn't have any gigs lined up yet but if it is outside and hot then I'm wearing a tank-top.

Slightly unrelated: I wore a tank-top out on my first date with my wife. It was July and still about 85 degrees at midnight. We ran into one of my sister's friends and to this day, 13 years later, she gives me crap about wearing a tank-top on a date. My wife must have liked the look (at best) or been completely indifferent to it (at worst) because she married me a few years later and has never mentioned it in the time we've been together.

One person's douche move is another person's rad move and another's "meh."
 

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