Are you using IEMs?
If not, a wedge?
Every player has thoughts about stage volumes, monitor mixes, FOH coverage, etc. And ALL answers are right if you, the band, and the sound crew is happy with the sound.
Personally, I like to hear and feel what I am playing. That means, yeah, my rig might probably be a few dB higher than it would or should be. IEMs are giving me the band - kick, snare, lead vox and rhythm guitar, plus just enough bass so I can identify where I am in the pocket.
My stage mix is sub-to-mid heavy so I can feel it. And whenever available, I ask/task FOH to carry almost all of what the audience will hear. And I've pulled one IEM out a few times, only because I really needed to hear where I was (and adjusting individual IEM mixes on the fly during a show is not recommended).
Old school guy, so the "no amps on stage, IEMs only" thing is not for me.
And I'm not a fan of the backbeat devices only because I'm already strapped with wireless packs for the bass and the IEMs. I change from fretted to fretless and back during the evening so I really don't want another pack to maintain or worry about.
I'm playing music, not going into battle.
Lee Sklar ran his rig with a sub kick on it at one time, guessing for the exact same reason (feel).
Perhaps elevate the cab a bit?
Or do what I did and say "screw this", get twin BB3's or a Six10T and live in tonal bliss.
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