Question about Basses and Ex(s)

[Madhouse27]

I'd probably get rid of them and start like a new era. No need to have women drooling all over you while your playing a bass that your ex bought you.

 

[JRA]

sell the one you don't play. put flats on the other one and beg your ex to take you back...you can tell her that you've 'changed'.

 

[pbassjbass]

Keep them both. Start trying different strings on the P until you find a reason to play it. If you don't find a reason, then sell.

 

[Fumble Fingers]

Sell em both and buy something new. You only live once. Screw sentiment.

 

[Stewie]

Never sell a P Bass, there are so few around, it's sad that they only made a couple of 'em

 

[Matthew_84]

If you have no emotional attachment to the basses that are related to your ex in a positive or negative way, then treat them as if your ex has nothing to do with the equation. Keep/sell at your discretion.

 

[lowphatbass]

I have a '75 P that I bought DURING my divorce. It means the world to me. It was one of those deals where you pick up a bass in the store, leave and can't stop thinking about it. It may not have been love at first sight but it was definitely lust and intrigue.
It doesn't sound like you're overly attached or unattached to these two basses so let nature take its course.

 

[Marc DLarosa]

As long as You still get to use your fingers... why stop having fun? Keep the basses.

 

[mcarp555]

You probably bought things for her when you were married. How would you feel about what she did with those items now? That's your answer.

 

[Bassbeater]

You probably bought things for her when you were married. How would you feel about what she did with those items now? That's your answer.

In that case I should shove my guitar up my ... ? I dunno about that advice.

 

[interp]

Keep the one you play. Sell the one you don't.

Honestly, that would be my answer even if there were no divorce story.

+1

 

[Old Blastard]

Had 4 basses and an amp when I got married. Had 4 and 1 when divorced after 20 years.

7 years of being single and I now have 16 basses and 3 amps and play in 2 bands and 2 duos.

Moral of the story? Keep them, but stop at 12 basses. One a month works best.

 

[pigpen1]

Ok so the short story is that I now find myself divorced after 26 yrs. Life is cool and I'm not suicidal, LOL. Here's the question. In our time together she gave me a 78 PBass, very clean condition, like new almost. She also gave me a used, but still sweet, Lakland 55-64. Trans white, ash, birdseye board, Basslines p'ups. Now she did surprise me with these as gifts, I found them and said buy this. No sentiment there, even though one was a christmas gift and the other a 10th anniv. Do I keep them or swap them out for something else, and why ? The Lakalnd gets played fairly regular, the P never gets touched. I have the P because that's what I played in HS and I wanted to have a recreation of that bass. I'm a 5 string guy. Before you ask, no I don't get sad/mad/nostalgic when I see or play them. So, what do you think ?

Do you mean keep as opposed to sell? Or do you mean keep or give back to the ex?

 

[nerkoids]

I don't think it would be the end of the world if you sold the one you're not using, especially if it'll get you some scratch for other stuff, regardless of the type of relationship you now have with your ex.

 

[dloase]

Life is too short and music to good to have equipment that you don't use on a fairly regular basis. I also divorced after 25 years, but didn't have those issues. Been remarried and never happier. Also my collection of instruments has grown considerably. All of which get used on a fairly regular basis.

Just remember, life is short and we are blessed with the ability to do something we love, and sometimes even get paid for doing said thing. Keep what you like/use, get rid of the rest (applies to a lot of things in life not just your basses!)

 

[LowEndOperative]

You probably bought things for her when you were married. How would you feel about what she did with those items now? That's your answer.

I suppose that's the implied risk of marital gift-giving, that they could be unutterably squandered or find their way into a dumpster

 

[buldog5151bass]

A gift is a gift. If you were still together, you would have to consider the hurt feelings from a sale. You apparently are not.

 

[Joe Nerve]

I have no intentions of ever leaving my wife, and I sell basses she's given me all the time.

 

[buzzbass]

You probably bought things for her when you were married. How would you feel about what she did with those items now? That's your answer.

I could care less

 

[buzzbass]

Do you mean keep as opposed to sell? Or do you mean keep or give back to the ex?

sell/trade etc.