This is why I haven't been reporting much on the band search lately. All the flake outs lately have been bands responding to MY ad (by email or sometimes phone), getting really excited about setting up a jam, then just never doing it. That or I just get an email saying they're looking for a bassist, I respond and ask when we can get together and/or if they have any songs I can check out and they just never get back to me.
If only I could draw on friends to do a band. The only problem with that for me is that most of my musician friends aren't into stoner rock/metal, doom or sludge. I've never known many people who are. Those who have gotten into it, they all have full time bands already and if I jam with them it ends up being a low priority side project. I have a few friends who are into the music and don't have other bands and they all seem to be super flaky in general or have some kind of personal hangup where they say they want to play music and just never do it. I need to alter my approach and do some different things, for sure, but this area really is terrible for musicians. That's why I've been looking in the Santa Cruz and SF areas for people and willing to travel, but it hasn't panned out so far.
