Stoner/Doom Bassists Thread, Part 90: Maxed Out

[Pelham Bleu]

I would say ride it out. If it comes up, it comes up. Dont deny it, or go in to huge details, but be up front and most importantly, be confidant about it. This is how the scenario should NOT go:

Anton: So I hear you are seeing my daughter...
ER: Oh... so and so is your daughter? Well... We have had dinner once or twice... I guess... we are friends... so... yeah I guess we are seeing each other?

He will stab you in the throat, and worship the dark lord in a pool of your blood.

This is how the scenario SHOULD go:

Anton: So I hear you are seeing my daughter...
ER: Yes I am am and she seems to be a great gal. It was kind of a shock to find out that she was your daughter, and I didnt know you played for SL. I like her a lot, and plan on seeing her again.

Look that crazy fuuck straight in the eye and dont hesitate, be confidant, you are not hiding anything. You can be a slimy fuuck, but if he thinks you're not a pu$$y, and will treat his daughter right, he wont come at you.

This advice.
It's sage-like.

 

[Corey Y]

Total mindshag today.

I started seeing this bird who I somehow successfully chatted up at a club a few weeks back. I took her out on a date this evening and got to know her a little bit. Eventually we got onto the boring topic of hobbies. She's mad into bonsai trees and quilting/craft - cool, whatever. I tell her I'm into music and play in a couple bands. She tells me "Oh, that's cool. My dad used to play in a heavy metal band back in the 80's". This intrigued me, so I asked her who he played for - assuming she either wouldn't know or the band was nothing more than a garage band or sorts. She says her dad played for Slaughter Lord.

A bit of background info for those not in the loop, Slaughter Lord were a cult thrash metal band who were pretty massive in the local Sydney scene back in the 80's. They never released a full length but they did release a demo which somehow founds its way and blew up over in the Scandenavian countries - so much so that At The Gates covered one of their songs. Point is, they made quite a name for themselves despite never releasing any concrete material.

"**** off!" I bluntly spit out. "Your dad played for Slaughter Lord? I played their demo like 5,000 times throughout high school!". She laughed, but probably more at me than anything else. I risked sounding like the biggest fanboy and asked her who her dad was in the band. She tells me her dad is Anton who played guitar in the band.

The biggest mindshag here is that Anton runs the very rehearsal and recording studio my current bands play at. All this time, I've been drinking beer and pulling cones with Anton from Slaughter Lord and I've never known.

But now it gets tricky...do I tell Anton I'm seeing his daughter? He's a mad bloke and all but surely he's got to have some reservations about who dates his daughter. The stories I've shared with him won't be earning me any "Boyfriend of the Year" awards in his book either.

If you're dating the daughter of someone you know, even casually and unintentionally, I'd bring it up eventually. Casually, don't blurt it out like a weirdo. Maybe just say you found out she was his daughter and you had a nice conversation with her over drinks and let him know she's a great girl or something. I dunno, I've never dated anyone related to anyone else I know, maybe you should hide that sh*t forever. I say spill it just because maybe she already has or will, don't wanna seem like you're playing games.

That is a cool/strange connection though, good story at least.

 

[The_Janitor]

Countryman M4HP Sony ECM-672Audio Technica AT897 Crown PCC 160 Sennheiser E965 Sennheiser MKH416 Shure 55SH Series II Shure Beta 52aShure Beta 91 Shure Beta 98 Shure KSM 141 Shure KSM 32 Shure SM48 Shure SM57 Shure SM58 Shure SM58S Shure SM91

List of mics from AV place. Trick is they are spread in two different locations. Might have to drive to Denver. Sm57 then???

Out of that list, definitely get the SM57.

 

[CL400Peavey]

This advice.
It's sage-like.

It applies to just about every aspect of life. Be confidant, dont bullsh!t. If you are asked a question you don't know the answer to, dont deny it. Instead counter it with a question of your own. Listen to the answer and continue to ask until you DO know. Dont apologize for who you are, dont hide it either, and certainly dont let anyone talk down to you because of it.

This is why I interview very well. I go in to every meeting with the intention of being the baddest MF'er there. If I dont know how something works, I actively figure it out with my peers. No one knows everything or is perfect, but as long as you are engaging it will carry you.

 

[El Raro]

That's some seriously good advice there. I'll take it on board. Anton's a really cool guy and he hates confrontation so I doubt he'd get fired up over something like this. Then again, dealing with family invokes different emotions in any man so its a bit of a gamble. Still, I'll ride it out like you said. If it comes up in conversation, I'll just be upfront. Only way to go about it, really.

 

[LOCOPELAND]

Morning dudes. Took the day off work. Heading down to Portland for Stumpfest to see Red Fang, Lord Dying, Black Pussy, Chron Goblin and my buddies Ancient Warlocks. Should be awesome. Hoping that AW will make it to the show as their transmission blew in SoCal a few days ago while on tour.

 

[CL400Peavey]

That's some seriously good advice there. I'll take it on board. Anton's a really cool guy and he hates confrontation so I doubt he'd get fired up over something like this. Then again, dealing with family invokes different emotions in any man so its a bit of a gamble. Still, I'll ride it out like you said. If it comes up in conversation, I'll just be upfront. Only way to go about it, really.

As cliche as it sounds: Just act like a gentleman and be respectful. No one will ever fault you for that.

 

[The_Janitor]

Yeah, good advice from Mr CL400. Hell, he may approve since he already knows and likes you. All of this may not matter anyway, if this woman finds you to be too much like her father she may lose interest... or be extra interested - in which case you may want to run away.

 

[Lazarus.Bird]

I thought the new design for the classifieds would improve them a lot, but they're pretty hellish to look through now.

 

[Pelham Bleu]

I thought the new design for the classifieds would improve them a lot, but they're pretty hellish to look through now.

For some reason, those tiny photos throw me off...

 

[Corey Y]

My friend with the Gibby V bass is buying my SG. I'm on a roll with selling off my surplus gear this week. Anyone need anything?

 

[mc_muench]

I guess this thread is going to keep going. The Maxed Out title seems rather fitting at this point.

I think so too.



Damn its turned into the dating advice hotline in here.

 

[Blank_0101]

Get her pregnant and move out of town. That'll show him you know how to rock.

 

[mc_muench]

My friend with the Gibby V bass is buying my SG. I'm on a roll with selling off my surplus gear this week. Anyone need anything?

A dually

All your recording equipment and knowledge

Your soul.


I only need one of them, your choice.

 

[Blank_0101]

I'll take your firstborn

 

[Corey Y]

A dually

All your recording equipment and knowledge

Your soul.


I only need one of them, your choice.

I'll take your firstborn

...I'm not seeing any offers.

 

[Kaa]

Get her pregnant and move out of town. That'll show him you know how to rock.

Post of the day.

 

[Blank_0101]

...I'm not seeing any offers.

You think I was asking? Silly Abraham

 

[Blank_0101]

When is the boy due? He's gonna be mad you're dumping all these cool toys before he can appreciate them

 

[Lazarus.Bird]

Ok, best gif I've ever seen.