IMO as a stage performer -- your first concern should be getting your sound dialed in so that it sounds good to you (and maybe your drummer) on your little corner of the stage.
When your sound is good to you, you will play better. Performance is more important that FOH mix.
FOH should be left to the person who is out in the FOH running sound. If your band doesn't have a FOH person, then dial it in on stage, and do the best you can for FOH - meaning keep it as simple as possible. Just try to get a nice balance and make sure you can hear the singer.
There is a bit of trust and letting-go involved here. You can't possibly control everything, so pick the one thing you can control and do that as good as you can.
Have you tried running everything flat? Turn off all the filters and start with a nice, flat signal across the board. It’s the correct starting position, especially if you’re new to sound.
Great advice... it's important to have a "home base" to return to after going down a tone rabbit hole.
Also... when in doubt, a nice clean signal with minimal EQ usually will work pretty well out front. A bass (passive or active with no crazy eq), plugged into a simple clean box ("pre" DI, JDI, etc). Then maybe on the board hit the HPF button, bump the bass control up one and the treble control down one. Turn it up until you can hear it in FOH. Keep it simple - especially for country / Americana.
I am currently playing through a Tone Hammer DI direct to the board.
Great box. If you are going "post" to FOH, and using the AGS, then you already have you your EQ curve. The AGS with gain low for very minimal distortion works great. The AGS give you the HPF and LPF that you need (basically a cab-sim). From there do minimal knob tweaking.
----- I think your problem is more with the PA. TOO much subs! Instead of HPF-ing the heck out of your bass, lower the crossover frequency of the subs/mains. Or turn the volume of the subs down compared to the volume of the tops so you get better balance.
Again,,, keep it simple and don't go down EQ and signal chain rabbit holes. If everything is just getting washed out by the subs, then turning the subs down for better balance is the first step.