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Well... I guess I'm calling it quits.

#181
saustindavis said:
Is this thread still going? I worked out the band stuff with my wife almost a month ago... Things have been great since we talked, and the band is even starting to look for gigs now. We are still trying to find someone to talk to about relationship stuff, because we don't always see eye to eye, but the band hasn't been an issue recently. Thanks for all of the advise!
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Great to hear this!

I read through several pages of the advise offered and I was shocked and pleased at many of the suggestions offered by my fellow man. Good stuff guys, I might just pass the link along to my girlfriend for some healthy discussion from a guy perspective.
 
#183
As long as you're able to meet your kids' needs, you should stay in your band. For many (or most) of us, music is an integral part of what makes us a person. If you stop playing, it will be a loss for not only you and your bandmates, but for your wife and family. You will not be whole if you lose the music and, whether you want to admit it or not, it will affect how you feel about your wife.

Stick to your guns. See if you can work out an agreement with your wife about having time that belongs to you.

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#184
The new book, "Understanding Women, volume I" just came out.
 

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#187
Jazzdogg said:
The new book, "Understanding Women, volume I" just came out.
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What's that, the abridged version?

Seriously, some people (ladies?) don't understand your relationship with music. I've been challenged several times on my 'ulterior motives' for playing music, and you can explain yourself 'til you're blue in the face. But there's no point. You either get it or you don't.

So I'm single :D and I don't mind it.
 
#188
That did not fair well for me ! I quit playing to keep her happy and stay married and she found other things to bitch about ! In the end it was jealousy and I was out ..Never again will I do that ! Because I Got 99 Problems !
 
#189
It works both ways. My husband never has understood why I want to make music. At least he's never tried to make me quit. But I do wish lots of times that he would be more supportive. It would be nice to live with someone who encouraged me to practice instead of complaining that i'm
wasting time, and is the reason I always practice either thru headphones or acoustically. And when I'm practicing either flute or piccolo, I usually head out to one of the bayside beaches (not as crowded as ocean side beaches) and sit on a bench there to practice.
 
#190
mixx80 said:
That did not fair well for me ! I quit playing to keep her happy and stay married and she found other things to bitch about ! In the end it was jealousy and I was out ..Never again will I do that ! Because I Got 99 Problems !
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I had the same thing. Tried everything to make the ex wife happy, found out it didn't matter what I did, she was just an unhappy person. Got out, didn't look back.
 
#191
Spaldo said:
What's that, the abridged version?

Seriously, some people (ladies?) don't understand your relationship with music. I've been challenged several times on my 'ulterior motives' for playing music, and you can explain yourself 'til you're blue in the face. But there's no point. You either get it or you don't.

So I'm single :D and I don't mind it.
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Yeah. My "ulterior motives" are that I really like loading in and loading out.
 

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