What is most important in your life?

[LSquared]

Start with:
My wife (coming up on 28 years)
My Kids (23, 21 and 10)
(see a trend here?)

Add to that:
My Faith
My extended family (yep, even my son-in-law)
My friends


Everything else is just fluff.

 

[Deluge Of Sound]

My music/art.
Followed closely by other people's music/art.

 

[MakiSupaStar]

hey Daren, can you elaborate? What do you feel is an equal balance of doing things you dont like in order to make him happy? How do you make sure you are happier making him happy, than doing the things you may not like to support him? Get me?

I think I know what you mean. Before I had a child, I had a pretty detached perspective on life. Yes I loved my wife and family, but I felt that if I lost all that (yes I'd be devastated), I'd still survive. But there's something about having a child that changes you. It's like you've lived your whole life as part of a show all about you. As soon as you have a kid you become a supporting character for your own show. It's not really about my happiness or his happiness, it's kind of more primal than that. Until you've woken up in the middle of the night sobbing with despair because you've dreamt that you've lost him, you're not going to understand. I don't mean to be elitist (you'll never understand until you have a kid) like a lot of parents are, but I'm just saying that it's kind of hard to explain until you know that perspective.

 

[MJ5150]

.....I know when people see my avatar they want to joke around.....

It's not your avatar causing that.

-Mike

 

[MatticusMania]

Again, what is most important in your life? Please try to take it at least a little seriously. I know when people see my avatar they want to joke around, but I need some insight on this one. I really do want to know. Of all the things in your life, what do you cherish and need most to be happy?

The most important things in my life:

#1 My wife to be
#2 My family & friends
#3 My music/bass playing/artistic expression
#4 Being happy no matter the situation

and my cat.

 

[bassman1185]

For me it is definitely my relationship with God. No doubt, not at all. I love my wife more than any human on the planet, but she is second. All people (my unbelievably awesome wife included) will fail and disappoint me, but God is eternal and immutable, and He will never let me go.

 

[nickbass79]

Family and Happiness

 

[Justlearning]

The man I have been in love with for 28 years...he is my one true love. He is now my fiancee...plan on getting married next year. He is my best friend...we "misplaced" each other for 25 years (my fault), then fate brought us back together. We almost lost each other again (not my fault this time), but we are supposed to be together...we are soulmates...we both know that now and our commitment is unbreakable. We aren't young...well, young at heart, and we have both learned a lot from life, from our mistakes. I plan on spending eternity at his side. After him, there is my beautiful daughter and my grandson...then all the rest of my family, and some really great friends. Life is way too short, and getting shorter. Being in love, being someone's soulmate is an incredible blessing, and I embrace it.

 

[Cacklingjackyl]

Talkbass is by far most important.

 

[6jase5]

My wife and the hope for perfect health of my first child (daughter) who is due in 2 months. It's truly captivated my mind. To provide therapy I've been buying her clothes.

The house is starting to look like a yard sale.

 

[MonetBass]

My son.

I think I know what you mean. Before I had a child, I had a pretty detached perspective on life. Yes I loved my wife and family, but I felt that if I lost all that (yes I'd be devastated), I'd still survive. But there's something about having a child that changes you. It's like you've lived your whole life as part of a show all about you. As soon as you have a kid you become a supporting character for your own show. It's not really about my happiness or his happiness, it's kind of more primal than that. Until you've woken up in the middle of the night sobbing with despair because you've dreamt that you've lost him, you're not going to understand. I don't mean to be elitist (you'll never understand until you have a kid) like a lot of parents are, but I'm just saying that it's kind of hard to explain until you know that perspective.

+1 to all of that. My wife and son are certainly the most important things in my life. And having a kid (my son and Daren's son are about the same age) changed my perspective on a lot of things. We try not to make everything about him, though, and being our only child that can be tough sometimes. But the way I feel is similar -- I'm trying to make him in the best person I can without being overbearing. It's a tough balancing act.

 

[EricF]

I think I know what you mean. Before I had a child, I had a pretty detached perspective on life. Yes I loved my wife and family, but I felt that if I lost all that (yes I'd be devastated), I'd still survive. But there's something about having a child that changes you. It's like you've lived your whole life as part of a show all about you. As soon as you have a kid you become a supporting character for your own show. It's not really about my happiness or his happiness, it's kind of more primal than that. Until you've woken up in the middle of the night sobbing with despair because you've dreamt that you've lost him, you're not going to understand. I don't mean to be elitist (you'll never understand until you have a kid) like a lot of parents are, but I'm just saying that it's kind of hard to explain until you know that perspective.

WORD!!!!

My wife and the hope for perfect health of my first child (daughter) who is due in 2 months. It's truly captivated my mind. To provide therapy I've been buying her clothes.

The house is starting to look like a yard sale.

CONGRATULATIONS!!! That little girl is going to rock your world in ways you can't even imagine.

 

[KeithBMI]

Pacman, when are you going to set me up with your daughter?

 

[EricF]

Pacman, when are you going to set me up with your daughter?

You do realize that Pacman is fully trained in the use of firearms, right?

 

[6jase5]

Pacman, when are you going to set me up with your daughter?

.....And thus marks the end of one KeithBMI.

 

[macaroni tony]

You do realize that Pacman is fully trained in the use of firearms, right?

on top of that, uh....isn't she, like, 14?

 

[Phalex]

Pacman, when are you going to set me up with your daughter?

I'm about three hours away from Detroit Jon. All you gotta do is make a few purchases with my credit card at a few places with out security cameras somewhere in Japan right around the time of the "accident" to alibi me up.............

 

[rtslinger]

My Wife and 3 Children Metallica said it best nothing else matters!

 

[Happynoj]

Better Keith than Username.

 

[TheSuzie]

Health
Adequate Shelter
Water & Plumbing
Good Food
Electricity (especially refrigeration)

After having done without those for a few years, I really appreciate what I have of them every day. My family and friends are important and the pain I feel from being separated from them is beyond belief. Still, without the basics I will not get to have any sort of relationship with them at all.

I will also put a plug in for nature. Living outdoors among all the desert plants and creatures, under the open sky, has added quite a bit of joy to a really tough situation.

S