Thanks for letting me know I'm not alone here. Yes. You understand.
To those that don't, let's say the band is a Pink Floyd tribute and I own themachine.com. Or a Stones tribute and I own stickyfingers.com or hotrocks.com. Although those tributes are very established, lets just imagine they're only a couple of years into it and currently using stickyfingerstribute, or themachinetribute as their url. To say the most those domains would be worth minus the "tribute" are $150 is... well.... You get it. Especially when I have already that much invested in the years I owned it.
And as you said, finding the "right" customer is the issue here. My customers probably come down to possibly 10 people (50 if you include band members in the decisions), who I can easily access by just searching out the band name (there are a handful going by the name), and emailing them. My OP and question is, how would you guys go about doing that, and what do you think it's worth?
Let's make believe we're all evil, money hungry, cut throat capitalists for a moment. What do you honestly think is the worth (the most your average joe would be willing to pay), of a name comparable to the 3 mentioned above, and what (if you've ever done this) actually gets done in order to do the transfer? How does the exchange actually take place? I'm clueless on this. It's not like I can say paypal me x amount of dollars, and then just send them my password.
I would suggest reaching out to each of the band's domain asministrators. Do a whois search on each to get their email addesses. Then compose an email to all of the bands email addresses, CC'ing all of them (designed to show opportunity and create competition)
State plainly that you are a fellow musician who owns this particular domain and would like to sell it at a fair price to one of these groups. 'If interested, email an offer in the next 7 days (or whatever).'
One of these might jump at the chance to drop tribute or band from their url for $500 to $1,000.