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Why do girls spill their guts to me?

#81
john turner said:
lol. pardon me. my advice was for getting girls actually -wanting- me, and not -just- sleeping with me.

but that's cool, you guys keep doing what you do. :). that apparently works for -so many- folks.
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Partially in jest, of course. However, I actually do have a wonderful (read: hot!) girl waiting for me at home right now. My advice works for both getting a girl to actually want me AND/OR sleeping with me. I am king (of my own little world).
 
#83
Been busy playing my bass...Lets see here..

1. MM is a tool. Shirtless or not.

2. Maki and JT have lots of info /opinions on the subject matter.

3. SoCal will break off the day I move there with my luck

4. Hardly any of us are noobz.

5. Carrots.

6. I got in trouble with the law with my Cee Lo video post.:hiding:

I think that about covers it.:p
 
#84
MatticusMania said:
Partially in jest, of course. However, I actually do have a wonderful (read: hot!) girl waiting for me at home right now. My advice works for both getting a girl to actually want me AND/OR sleeping with me. I am king (of my own little world).
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heh yeah, sorry, i addressed some of your points a little more closely.

and like i said, good on ya if it works. but for every lucky dude like you who somehow got traction with that approach, there's -dozens- who are getting nothing but skidmarks with it. again, my experience.
 
#86
john turner said:
lol. pardon me. my advice was for getting girls actually -wanting- me, and not -just- sleeping with me. there's a difference. i've been married now for almost a decade, and i still get the occasional email from 3 or 4 individuals every few months who obviously feel inspired to test the waters, just in case, despite that i've made it perfectly and abundantly clear that i have no interest.

but that's cool, you guys keep doing what you do. :). that apparently works for -so many- folks.

another thing to consider. all the 20-something year old "i don't care and i'm broadcasting how much i don't care to make you care" guys that i knew back when i was that age are now divorced. no lie, and i knew quite a few. take from that what you will, but as a 40 something-year old, that attitude becomes a much harder sell.
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I thinks John's advice holds a lot of merit. But just saying I'm also getting those same emails, texts, pics, face to fave propositions. I'm not saying there's a right or wrong approach here. I'm just saying what has worked for me in my world. Your results may vary in your world.
 
#87
MakiSupaStar said:
I thinks John's advice holds a lot of merit. But just saying I'm also getting those same emails, texts, pics, face to fave propositions. I'm not saying there's a right or wrong approach here. I'm just saying what has worked for me in my world. Your results may vary in your world.
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well, you're a surfer. so you know, that carries a lot of weight.
 
#92
I work with this girl she is 25 and attractive I talk to her like i would anyone else dont try to put her on a pedestal or nothing just "one of the guys" type. we have been working together for three years oh and by the way she is married (she keeps a wedding pic of her and her husband on her desk) When ever they fight she takes the pic down out of site and she looks bummed out not well rested. I work 3rd shift so around 2am the phone rang which never happens and it is her asking me to let her in the building(it is a bank and are access cards only work on the shifts we work she works first.) I go and let her in and she is all ragged out I even joke with her and say dang Lisa you look like you just craweled up from under a bridge (ofcourse it was not that bad, but compared to what she looks like during working hours, it was that bad)..."I know me and Scott got in a fight he was being a douche bag so I am going to my parents for a couple weeks. I stopped by to see if you could help me carry some empty boxes that I need to move stuff"....blah blah blah ok long story short, I dont pry I dont ask her for more details I do agree with some things she tells me that sound messed up for example her telling me some of the mind games that he plays with her. I finally told her I appreciate her feeling comfortable telling me all this but feel it is really not my business. A wife putting down her husband to another guy did not seem right. She even told me she felt she was married to young at 24 and was not able to have any fun. So now we just talk about normal stuff. Moral of the story if you are a nice guy a girl will open up to you.
 
#93
JacoLesFlea said:
I work with this girl she is 25 and attractive I talk to her like i would anyone else dont try to put her on a pedestal or nothing just "one of the guys" type. we have been working together for three years oh and by the way she is married (she keeps a wedding pic of her and her husband on her desk) When ever they fight she takes the pic down out of site and she looks bummed out not well rested. I work 3rd shift so around 2am the phone rang which never happens and it is her asking me to let her in the building(it is a bank and are access cards only work on the shifts we work she works first.) I go and let her in and she is all ragged out I even joke with her and say dang Lisa you look like you just craweled up from under a bridge (ofcourse it was not that bad, but compared to what she looks like during working hours, it was that bad)..."I know me and Scott got in a fight he was being a douche bag so I am going to my parents for a couple weeks. I stopped by to see if you could help me carry some empty boxes that I need to move stuff"....blah blah blah ok long story short, I dont pry I dont ask her for more details I do agree with some things she tells me that sound messed up for example her telling me some of the mind games that he plays with her. I finally told her I appreciate her feeling comfortable telling me all this but feel it is really not my business. A wife putting down her husband to another guy did not seem right. She even told me she felt she was married to young at 24 and was not able to have any fun. So now we just talk about normal stuff. Moral of the story if you are a nice guy a girl will open up to you.
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There are two kinds of opening up, and you opened the wrong door.
 
#96
JacoLesFlea said:
:eek: please explain
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Read the first 2 pages of this thread. You'll realize that you've opened up the wrong door. The OP is actually tired of being a tissue box holder for these chicks. He wants these chicks to look at him, not as a "friend they can talk to", but as a piece of man meat that can't understand or stop thinking about. Being a nice guy will get you nowhere with chicks. Being a semi-douche will get you all over the place with chicks. Don't be a complete douche but just enough of one to get the ladies interested.
 
#97
Yeah, I used to sort of be in the same boat. For whatever reason, in college, I had a lot of female friends that were strictly friends and nothing else. I think in retrospect I was way too nice, as there were probably a couple I would have been interested in otherwise.

Girls, especially at that age, want a guy that seems somewhat mysterious. You can't always be the shoulder to cry on or the guy they talk to for hours on end. Sometimes you have to cut them off or just not care.

To be honest, I found that a lot of chicks still in college don't really know what they want yet. Maybe that's why they're attracted to guys that are seemingly jerks. My wife and I started dating when I was in my final year at college, but she had already graduated. I think being out in the "real world" made her more decisive and knowing of what she wanted in a relationship.
 
#98
capnsandwich said:
Read the first 2 pages of this thread. You'll realize that you've opened up the wrong door. The OP is actually tired of being a tissue box holder for these chicks. He wants these chicks to look at him, not as a "friend they can talk to", but as a piece of man meat that can't understand or stop thinking about. Being a nice guy will get you nowhere with chicks. Being a semi-douche will get you all over the place with chicks. Don't be a complete douche but just enough of one to get the ladies interested.
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Oh ok..If she was not married it would be a different story.
 
#99
JacoLesFlea said:
Oh ok..If she was not married it would be a different story.
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Marriage brings it to a whole different level. Chances are she loves her husband and wants things to work. However, there's a chance that he's cheating on her but hasn't found out yet. When she does, more than likely, it'll be over for them. That's when the game starts all over again. I am in no way condoning being a home wrecker or a wife robber. As of now she's off the market. However, she may have friends, hot friends since hot chicks seem to stick together, and if you peak her interest she'll want to hook up one of her friends.

I love this game!
 
#100
IMO women are crazy. Thankfully Erickson view is that between the ages of 21 and 34. A person's goal is to maintain intimate and personal relationships, find a fulfilling career and establish ones individuality amongst group climates. So, I have like thirteen and half years to figure it all out.

Hope that helps.
 

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