If you met someone really liked and would want to date, would their HIV positive status be a deal breaker for you? Man is this a tough call, I might proceed but with extreme caution.
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Would you date someone with HIV?
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I remember I saw pictures of a girl on some dating site and her profile says she had HIV.
I look at it this way: I don't really get a lot of action (I don't mind anymore, actually), but if I were, that's a whole extra layer of precaution I'd have to take, with any STD.
Unless celibacy is appealing....go for it. But that factoid I believe effectively reduces 3/4 of the usual guys.
I just can't see myself ever becoming attached to a person that I know is HIV positive. And if I were to date someone and fall in love, then get told, the dishonesty would be a huge turn-off, because that's something that needs to be mentioned before anything gets too serious.
Hell yeah it's a deal breaker!
Even with modern medicine you're messing with stuff that can and will kill you slowly and painfully. It also can and will limit your options in life if you get it - potential jobs, future partners, possible insurance rates, etc... Saying you'll use extreme caution is, quite frankly, laughable. It only takes one mistake one time to ruin everything for you.
Even with modern medicine you're messing with stuff that can and will kill you slowly and painfully. It also can and will limit your options in life if you get it - potential jobs, future partners, possible insurance rates, etc... Saying you'll use extreme caution is, quite frankly, laughable. It only takes one mistake one time to ruin everything for you.
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Deal breaker. Unless I also had it.
Some things you need to be realistic about...
although love is seldom realistic.
What a dark future that type of relationship has in store for the healthy half... possibly loose your health, watch your partner decay in front of you....
Some things you need to be realistic about...
although love is seldom realistic.
What a dark future that type of relationship has in store for the healthy half... possibly loose your health, watch your partner decay in front of you....
I've been married almost 5yrs now, so this isn't an issue for me anymore. But, I'd say it depends how well you know her before you find out, and what you mean by "really liked" her.
Personally, while I appreciate this kind of honesty from a potential date, I've never felt it obligated me to put myself in harm's way (not saying you do). In short, yes, that would be a deal breaker for me.
Friends? Yes. Relationship? No. Just my .02 .
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There are plenty of quality people on earth to date who aren't carrying an incurable, contagious disease.
Why limit yourself to being at risk with a partner that's going to have a shortened lifespan?
Why limit yourself to being at risk with a partner that's going to have a shortened lifespan?
Just curious, why would that matter? Getting it via blood transfusion is rare these days. Accidental contact with contaminated blood? Once you have it, that's it. Why, would the initial circumstances matter?
Again, I'm just curious. To me, how they got it doesn't change that they have it and the very real risk you'd be exposing yourself to. All just my opinion.
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