Would you date someone with HIV?

[MatticusMania]

Fixed? Sorry, I don't get it. You mean am I? No.

He changed where you used the pronoun "her" to "them".

 

[SolarMan]

Fixed? Sorry, I don't get it. You mean am I? No.

He changed her to them.

 

[bassinplace]

An active IV drug abuser makes a bad partner.

So does someone with HIV, as bad as that sounds to say. They are not physically healthy, or at least some point won't be and to get involved means to watch the person that you care about succumb to disease and possibly go along with them. So, if you're talking about a "good" or "bad" partner, just in black and white terms like that, someone with HIV would fall into the latter camp, imo. I know I wouldn't have the fortitude to willingly get involved with someone I knew had HIV.

 

[MJ5150]

Just curious, why would that matter? Getting it via blood transfusion is rare these days. Accidental contact with contaminated blood? Once you have it, that's it. Why, would the initial circumstances matter?

Again, I'm just curious. To me, how they got it doesn't change that they have it and the very real risk you'd be exposing yourself to. All just my opinion.

I'd want to know if it was a one night stand, a history of drug use, promiscuity, or something else.

-Mike

 

[spade2you]

Deal breaker. I've seen a few folks dying of it slowly. Very slowly. I would fear that fate.

 

[MatticusMania]

Yeah, Id have to say that finding out someone has HIV would be a dealbreaker.

Sex is a big part of relationships for me, and things are risky enough for a bisexual guy like myself.

 

[Lee Moses]

Married here, so it's no question for me personally. . . . But I am shocked that some would even consider it. And offended that anyone with HIV would consider becoming sexually involved with/getting married to someone uninfected.

 

[Marlat]

Sex is a big part of relationships for me, and things are risky enough for a bisexual guy like myself.

You totally just FassaNova'd this thread.

 

[ProgRocker]

He changed her to them.

Oh. I didn't catch that. It's been a long day. Her, them, him.... what ever floats your boat.

 

[MatticusMania]

You totally just FassaNova'd this thread.

Was it the B-word?

Some people have a hard time wrapping their head around that.

 

[spade2you]

Just as long you don't get sick all over a Shergold.

 

[James Hart]

The heart wants what the heart wants Kevin. I can't say what call I would make in that situation, but I know I'd be open enough to give it a good consideration.

 

[hypapanuse]

Dealbreaker, I want kids someday.

No you don't. Your better off with goldfish. If decide you don't want them, you just flush them. With kids it requires cutting them up in such little pieces. Really a lot of work. T-H-W-A-C-K
OUCH!

 

[Marlat]

For anyone interested in this topic, this is a show / interview worth listening to.

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[macaroni tony]

it would take an awful, awful lot on the positive side to outweigh this negative. It's pretty much a "no" for me

 

[DagoMaino]

It would take an intense foundation to deal with the realities of an HIV relationship. I could understand if there were some history with the person (ie. long lost love comes back into your life), but to initiate the relationship knowingly seems like a stretch... Sadly, some circumstances remove certain kinds of companionship from one's future. But maybe they will hit the jackpot on someone that is supernaturally compassionate and selfless...

The hard part is that, if I were in the HIV shoes, I would probably not want someone to become attached in that way for both of our sakes. Selfishness, insecurity, fear, doubt, worry... not a great combo for any healthy relationship.

 

[Jim Nazium]

If you met someone really liked and would want to date, would their HIV positive status be a deal breaker for you? Man is this a tough call, I might proceed but with extreme caution.

At that stage (just met them and want to date them), no, it wouldn't be a deal breaker at all. There's no reason we couldn't go out and have some fun together.

If we really hit it off and we were starting to get serious, then I think at some point both of us should meet with a doctor and talk about the situation. How advanced is the disease? Is treatment working? What kind of sexual activity do we like, and can it be done safely?

By way of background, I had a good friend back in the 90s who was HIV+ (he was a hemophiliac and got it from contaminated clotting factor). He met a nice woman, fell in love and got married. He died a few years later, but she never got infected, and as far as I know doesn't have any regrets. So it can work. The future is uncertain, but that's true for all of us.

 

[Hopkins]

fixed

It wasn't wrong before, there is nothing wrong with a statement being gender specific. That just seems like political correctness going overboard.

 

[Floyd Eye]

What? I wouldn't need to know anything else. Anyone who knowingly has sex with someone with HIV pretty much has no right to bitch when they come up positive.

 

[xshawnxearthx]

I like unprotected sex too much for that. Way too many people to even consider something like this.