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Your take on being alone?

Ziltoid

Ziltoid

I don't play bass
Apr 10, 2009
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#1
I was just wondering how you felt about being alone.

Do you find it to be a state of solitude or loneliness? Or in other words, is it positive or negative to you?

I'd like to get individual perspectives on this, I think it could lead to interesting discussions.
 
#3
Depends on where in your life you're at I'd say. When I was younger and single, there were times when it outright sucked. Granted, I've always been a little bit of a loner so I may have been a little more comfortable with it than others but given the choice of 'alone" vs not, I'd rather not.
but now..? Shoot, when the wife takes the kids to visit relatives or something, I'm in a state of BLISS.
***BLISS***
for a little while. :)
 
#9
DwaynieAD said:
alone as in not in a relationship or alone as in "i need to be alone"

without a relationship is maddening to me. I require attention like an infant.

"i need to be alone" well, who doesn't every now and then, good to clear your head and enjoy yourself.
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I thought about narrowing the question in a way or the other but I felt like leaving the question open to interpretation ;)
 
#15
Timely topic for me.
My ex and I divorced about a year and a half ago after 25 years of marriage. The kids are all grown and have their own life's.
At first I enjoyed the solitude. I could come and go as I pleased, play my bass as much as I wanted as loud as I want. Ride my Harley when and where I wanted.
In the last couple of months it has started to sink in that I am truly alone and it scares me. Depression sets in at times. I do not want to be in a relationship and I do not want to jump into one just so I am not alone.
I try and keep myself busy but at night when I find myself trying to find something to occupy myself with. I can play my bass until my hands cramp, tidy things up a little but there isn't much to do, wash a dish a fork and a knife, wash some cloths but I did that the night before last, channel surf the TV and TB looking for something to watch until I am bored or it is time to hit the sac.
That is the worst time. Alone in bed. The bed is cold and the silence is deafening. Scenes of my life when my children were young and we were a happy family flash through my mind and bring tears to my eyes. That is when the deep loneliness sets in.
I quit drinking 30 years ago. I try do deal with with the loneliness the same way I dealt with the bottle, one day at a time. The problem is, after setting the bottle down, every day got better.
I don't know what I will do or if it will ever get better. All I can do it take it one day at a time.

and hope I meet a really cool hot rich divorcee :D
 
#18
I enjoy my alone time. I also enjoy my time with friends and family. Just depends on my mood. As for being alone or being in a relationship, both have their own pros and cons. I love being able to do whatever, whenever, but I also enjoy knowing that there's someone I can always come home to. As far as I can tell, whatever feels right at the time is probably the right thing for you to do.
 
#19
hdracer said:
Timely topic for me.
My ex and I divorced about a year and a half ago after 25 years of marriage. The kids are all grown and have their own life's.
At first I enjoyed the solitude. I could come and go as I pleased, play my bass as much as I wanted as loud as I want. Ride my Harley when and where I wanted.
In the last couple of months it has started to sink in that I am truly alone and it scares me. Depression sets in at times. I do not want to be in a relationship and I do not want to jump into one just so I am not alone.
I try and keep myself busy but at night when I find myself trying to find something to occupy myself with. I can play my bass until my hands cramp, tidy things up a little but there isn't much to do, wash a dish a fork and a knife, wash some cloths but I did that the night before last, channel surf the TV and TB looking for something to watch until I am bored or it is time to hit the sac.
That is the worst time. Alone in bed. The bed is cold and the silence is deafening. Scenes of my life when my children were young and we were a happy family flash through my mind and bring tears to my eyes. That is when the deep loneliness sets in.
I quit drinking 30 years ago. I try do deal with with the loneliness the same way I dealt with the bottle, one day at a time. The problem is, after setting the bottle down, every day got better.
I don't know what I will do or if it will ever get better. All I can do it take it one day at a time. Is it okay if I pray for you? I mean not right here but quietly when I am alone.

and hope I meet a really cool hot rich divorcee :D
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Sorry to hear this HD, I hope things get better for you. I have been staying clean and sober for about the same time as you. Is it okay if I pray for you? I mean not right here, but quietly when I am alone. :p
 
#20
I can be alone in a room full of people.

There are times when I want to be alone.

There are also times I want be left alone.

I'm really a fairly gregarious person, but somethings are best dealt with in a solitary fashion.
 

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