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Your take on being alone?

#21
It seems that solitude is a state that only people who are not alone can enjoy.

In order to appreciate me time they need to be "precious" (or "rare" if you prefer), not exclusively in the sense that those time rarely happen, as the measure would vary from a person to another. I'd say it's more of a rarity thing in an offer-demand kind of way.

"Me times" are defined by their opposite and the presence of said opposite in one's life. Without "social-times" "me-times" just become lonely times. No?

Except for hermits I guess :ninja:
 
#24
I prefer being alone most of the time with occasional short periods of time visiting with friends and relatives. This, along with my professional interaction with co-workers, satisfies my need for human companionship.

I was married for 10 years and had several girlfriends that I lived with before and after that, but I was never comfortable living in the same house with another person. None of them ever understood my need for large amounts of alone time and I could never explain it.
 
#25
I was generally something of a loner growing up, had friends but was never really the center of any group, and could be quite happy as a bookworm in my room.

Now I'm married and have four kids in a small duplex home - alone time is pretty rare. I love my family and love time with them, but I do prize the alone time.

But I think that indefinite alone time - no one coming to bed with me, no one getting up for breakfast, no one at the dinner table at night - I would probably go into a real funk. It would be really hard to adjust back to that.
 
#28
I've been single since '99. Occasionally one of my kids lives with me for a short spell (right now, my 25-yo son is hanging out with me), but mostly, it's me and my critters (2 dogs/2 cats). I like the freedom that being single gives me - do things my way, in my time, on my terms. When I feel the need to socialize, I seek out my friends and make plans to do stuff.

Every now and again, I ponder relationships. I suppose you could say I'm open to the idea, but I don't feel like I need one to define myself. When I meet someone who is as independent and self-sufficient as I am, and who respects that, knowing they'll get the same respect in return, then maybe I'll decide it's worth going further down that rabbit hole. Until then, my life is awesome just like it is.
 
#29
The freedom is nice.
Not making enough to live on my own sucks. I have to have roomates. This current batch of weirdos is getting annoying. But they leave me alone for the most part.
Occasionaly it can get pretty depressing. But I have friends just a short drive away that are always happy to see me. So, if I get too lonely I can visit someone.
I think I mainly just miss family. Being in Texas my families are in Cali or Ohio.
But, for the most part it's nice :)
 
#30
Generally I like to be around people, but not too many people at once. Weird as it may sound, I'm a straight dude who enjoys hanging out with girls much more than I enjoy hanging out with guys... IDK why (other than the reason one would jump to :D it's really more than that though). Otherwise I don't mind being alone, but I don't so much enjoy it. Unless I've got headphones on, it's a piss-off when people keep talking to you while you're trying to listen to something. :spit:

--Silvie
 
#31
I grew up in a family where everyone was left pretty much to do their own thing. We had dinner together most nights, but other than that, we all found our separate ways to and from school, jobs, etc. Personally, I like to fill my alone time tweaking web projects I'm working on, playing bass, browsing the internet, gaming online, or (recently) playing airsoft/paintball.

My girlfriend on the other hand is VERY needy when it comes to attention getting.
 
#35
rtslinger said:
Enjoy being alone after I get home from the office to unwind usually pick up the bass and run through some songs. After that there is nothing like having your wife and kids around.
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I love it when I come home at night and get to ask my wife how here day went. She usually spends the next 30 minutes or so telling me. Then she asks me and I spend about 5 minutes telling her how my day went. :D Seriously though it is great to come home to somoene I love so much and I know loves me as well
 
#36
After my wife died 3/6/10 - I was forced into being alone. I've grown used to it now, and having pets really helps. My dog(s), cat, and rabbits have been a tremendous help along with people I like on TV. I'm pretty much a recluse now.

I feel I'll spend the rest of my life just spinning in the mud - too young to die, and to old to start over. :(
 
#37
Solarmist said:
After my wife died 3/6/10 - I was forced into being alone. I've grown used to it now, and having pets really helps. My dog(s), cat, and rabbits have been a tremendous help along with people I like on TV. I'm pretty much a recluse now.

I feel I'll spend the rest of my life just spinning in the mud - too young to die, and to old to start over. :(
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Sorry to hear it my brother.
 
#39
Backstory on my perspective; I am an only child and I was born with Cerebral Palsy so I've spent a LOT of time alone.

My opinion is you either view things positively or negatively. Ie; If you're not content with yourself alone, you will probably have a tough go at it in any sort of relationships of any facet.

To this day I spend probably 80% of my waking hours alone, but I essentially have to. No car or drivers license (Seizures). But I have great friends that I speak with in one form or another daily. ;)

:D

God Bless, Ray
 

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