After skimming through the previous posts, it seems the optimum approach would be something like this:
1) Band sets up so their sound is right in their monitors, something they can hear and control.
2) Soundperson comes up on stage and listens to a song or two - preferably two songs as different as the band will play - so (s)he knows how the band wants to sound.
3) Soundperson goes out to the board and does their level best to bring that sound to the audience.
4) The band trusts the soundperson to get the house mix right and leaves their settings alone (no screwing with the settings to try to make yourself "stand out" once the show starts).
In other words, trust each other and work together to put out a great show for the audience. Which is why you're there, right?
That's exactly how I like to work when I run sound. Many people try to bring up FOH 1st, then monitors. I have 2 problems with that:
1. Monitors will bleed over into FOH, changing that mix.
2. Sometimes, we never get the chance to properly mix the monitors at all if it's left to last.
I'm primarily a bass player, & I love it when somebody works with me that way. As a bass player, though, I consider it my main job to be an entertainer. I don't agonize over "my sound" largely because I don't find it worth the time & trouble. If I can hear every note, I'm happy because I can do my job, & FOH sound is somebody else's job (who is a professional, that I trust to do their job well). If the band sounds good out front, I'm happy. Since I'm not out front, I have no idea what that sounds like anyway, except via feedback from the audience, & if I'm doing my job properly, they'll have a great time no matter whether any particular tone is achieved for my instrument. Most of them would never notice anyway, or really care if they did as long as everything else is done the way it's supposed to.
