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Am I being unreasonable?

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MisterFabulous said:
I am a bass player in a band, but would like to perhaps join a second band. I see an ad on Craigslist for a band forming two towns away, the format seems interesting. So I send an email, mentioning that my current band is playing out tomorrow night at the local brewery. I give the time and place in the message.

Almost immediately I get this in response: "Hi...I am not sure if I will be able get by there tomorrow. Let me know if you want to talk by phone."

The gig is ten miles from where the poster lives and he can't make it?
None of the three members can make it?

Am I being unreasonable in thinking that them hearing and seeing me in a band context is the best and most efficient way for me to audition? And if they pass it up, or poster does not tell the others, then probably it's for the best?
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Ever think they have plans? What does distance have to do woth anything?

Hell yea you are being unreasonable
 
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MisterFabulous said:
I am a bass player in a band, but would like to perhaps join a second band. I see an ad on Craigslist for a band forming two towns away, the format seems interesting. So I send an email, mentioning that my current band is playing out tomorrow night at the local brewery. I give the time and place in the message.

Almost immediately I get this in response: "Hi...I am not sure if I will be able get by there tomorrow. Let me know if you want to talk by phone."

The gig is ten miles from where the poster lives and he can't make it?
None of the three members can make it?

Am I being unreasonable in thinking that them hearing and seeing me in a band context is the best and most efficient way for me to audition? And if they pass it up, or poster does not tell the others, then probably it's for the best?
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Your username definitely tracks well with the sense of entitlement you’re showing here lol

That’s absolutely unreasonable. Ppl have lives of their own and stuff that they have planned.

It’s not reasonable at all to expect folks to drop everything just to come see some rando who sent them an email play a show with some band they’ve never heard of.
 
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I think your expectations are a wee bit high.
I am a therapist by day. I work for myself, and schedule clients 12-8.
I can move stuff around, but not that quickly.
 
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LBS-bass said:
One other thing - who is out there gigging nowadays that doesn't have video of their live performance? At the very least you can send them a video to show much of what they'd see if they went to a gig, and it's a lot easier (and cheaper) on them than going out.
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Depends what you want it to show.
I have stuff that I could feasibly send but I don't own it.
I have private stuff of me just goofing around but its a bit over the top.
I have a couple of things that people filmed on a phone.

I'm not often asked but I'd have to spend time cropping the file.
I have a lot more audio, but is that convincing?

I wonder how many people actually bother about accruing that stuff. When I offer my audio to the guys, not many are interested. They say they know how the gig went in regard to the way they played.
I assume they avoid hearing it in playback.
I often have to tell them its worth listening to..but there are few takers.
 

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