But i would never deal with that person in a new context. It may help im in chicago and the talent pool is deeeeep but I would be done. I've been doing this a long time and have had to tell a many musicians to get bent. zero repercussions. do you think those kinds of people just treat the bassist bad? nope, they treat everyone the same and people catch on. I don't have time to waste. I've already run through half of the years i was given and i wont waste the rest.
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Am I strange?
- Thread starter rodv66
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You really don't know that.
I played a festival a couple of weekends ago and had to cooperate with a number of people I have history with on things like coordinating stage stuff, sound reinforcement; even the owner of the venue is someone I have a rather serious beef with on specific issues.
If any of those people had an inkling that I'd made certain "decisions" about them, things on that day would have been much more uncomfortable. The things you will need people for in the future are not limited to whether or not you'll ever be in a band with them again, not by a long shot.
OP, I agree that, absent stuff we don't know about, this band did not handle the situation with you well. (Anyone else ever wish that a representative from the other side of one of these issues would log in to offer the other perspective?)
But something else caught my ear in this. You said on p.1:
"The guitarist in my original band has a reputation for being a dick because he expects people to show up, know the songs and be dependable."
Jeez! If that's true, than I've been a dick for most of several decades of playing music for pay. And most of the musicians I've appreciated have been dicks as well.
But something else caught my ear in this. You said on p.1:
"The guitarist in my original band has a reputation for being a dick because he expects people to show up, know the songs and be dependable."
Jeez! If that's true, than I've been a dick for most of several decades of playing music for pay. And most of the musicians I've appreciated have been dicks as well.
I didn’t hear why the former bass player left, why he returned, how long he’d been with the band. If they were sorry he left and happy he returned then that’s the way the cookie crumbles. I didn’t hear who the BL was ( doesn’t sound like your friend) so it probably wasn’t even your friends decision to bring the other guy back, he was just the messenger. The saying don’t shoot the messenger comes to mind. One other thing- this would have been your third band. I’ve had bands frown on bringing in players who were over committed. If this band would have been the old players primary gig that could have also played a factor. I totally agree with LBS-bass in that you should have taken the high road. You’ll bump into the same people everywhere and don’t want the “difficult to work with” reputation. When their old/new bass player leaves again and they come back to you, say thanks but no thanks. Karma satisfied.
I would have been polite and thanked them for the opportunity to play breifly with the band .. then quitely on the side badmouth the hell out of them .
On second thought, If McCartney quit the band and they got me as a replacement and then he wanted back in... I'd totally understand their decision to dump me.
^ This. Being honest, no need to read the rest of this thread. You got an outstanding answer.
