I really love our band, I love all our originals, I love the covers we play, I love the comradery/brotherhood feeling of the practices, I love the gigs we play (good or bad, we always seem to have a great time and make great memories). Over the past couple years, however, things have really fallen apart. We haven't even played a gig since Thanksgiving Eve 2009! I'll break it down for you: Lead singer- The main root of the problem. Went through some depressing times in his life a few years ago, was a huge alcoholic (I mean that both ways... bloated up to 300+ lbs). He's over it now, cut his drinking down, lost a bunch of weight, and seems to be trying to make good decisions in his life again. That last gig, the rhythm guitarist and I ended up singing on half or more of the songs, because the singer was so drunk and out of it, and couldn't remember lyrics. Really pissed us all off, but I'm over it and would play with him again. And I know he is more than willing to play again, but other members of the band still hold a grudge against him. This guy also wrote most of our originals, so playing those without him would be difficult, or at least not right. Lead guitarist- The most non-confrontational member of the band, who would probably rather just stay at home and record music on garage band at this point. Rhythm guitarist- Has a strong alliance with the drummer, and would rather we just ditch our singer and have this rhythm guitarist be our lead singer. However, IMO, this guy is not a very good singer, and though he's written several songs, they're very boring and lifeless. They are also opposed to the idea of getting a new lead singer, because they don't think we need one (false). Drummer- Aside from the aforementioned issues, this guy is incredibly flakey and forgetful. He'll forget about practices (which were usually at HIS HOUSE), back out of things at the last minute (due to the women in his life, usually). Also very "showy", always has to have his drum solo. Thinks everything lead & rhythm guitarist do is gold, thinks everything the singer does is ****, just because of the stigma that he now has against this guy. All along, we've continued jamming without the lead singer, but it never really went anywhere. No gig in over 2 years. I keep saying we need to bring back the old singer, get a new lead singer, (and possibly a keyboard player if we want to seriously start playing out again), but the rest of the band don't agree with me. I really feel like if we were to all get back together, we'd recapture the magic and get back on our feet. But, I can't even seem to get everybody together. Sorry this was so long. Any advice would be appreciated, as well as sharing your similar stories!