TB is never short of opinions.That alone says there are enough players out there who are extremely passionate about their respective playing and tone to have a valued voice here!
The responses have made me consider where my responsibility for my sound might me. For live situations I could consider getting a "better" DI than what my head has coming out of it. Maybe even buy a mic and keep it with me. Those are expensive options, and I'm not sure how I would test them.
The recording situation is in some ways more frustrating to me. I did sessions in 2015 and 2017, and both times I got screwed over because of a lack of motivation or knowledge. One studio was more old school, and he DI'ed me, but had the signal going through some wonderful Groove Tubes preamps and compressors. The articulation sounded great, but I really wanted a second track of a mic'ed cab to give it some depth. All that went right out the window. The guy that re-mixed it (long story) should have known about sims\IRs to get the tone I wanted.
The more recent recording was done all DI, even the guitars, and the drums were done with pads. It was quick and cheap, but the quality wasn't bad. On the guitar and drums that is. The engineer\producer didn't listen to anything I was telling him, didn't use sims\IRs, and gave me the options of being nothing by mid-clank or buried in the mix because that's all he understood. If he had used the Amplitude that I'm using now he could have dialed in what I was looking for in seconds. But no. I paid just as much as the other members to listen to them mess around for hours, while I nailed my tracks in 3 shots and ended up with something that makes me angry every time I listen to it.