I'm 48 years old. Just wanted that up front.
I retired from the Army after a 20 year career. My next career of choice will be in the culinary/hospitality industry.
To that end, I enrolled at the New England Culinary Institute in Montpelier, Vermont two years ago. I did this because, as many here have noted, a degree is required to get one's foot in the door in any number of professions or endeavors (regardless of age, I might add). I also felt that a formal education would teach me the correct way of doing things in a professional kitchen as opposed to the wrong way (and believe me, as I learned during two subsequent internships at restaurants, there is a wrong way). I didn't want to learn bad habits, and I wanted to learn as much as I could from the excellent chef-instructors I studied under.
Most of my peers were 30 years younger than me, some less than that. Here are the things, generally speaking, that I noticed about the young people I went to school with as a group.
1 - Many had no discipline at all.
2 - Many didn't understand the concept of punctuality (initially, at least - once they were sent home from class by the Chef, they figured that out pretty quick).
3 - Few had a sense of responsibility - either for themselves or others.
4 - Many were downright unprofessional in and out of the kitchen. By this I mean in appearance (dirty uniforms, unshaven, shoes not polished, etc., which goes against what is stated in the Student Handbook), demeanor (language, leaning on something when they should be cleaning, talking back to the Chef with no reason to do so, etc.), and attitude (did not take criticism well, felt they should be given something as opposed to working for and earning it).
5 - Many put in the minimum effort to graduate/pass a class. Many felt that because they showed up, they should get an A.
6 - Some were openly disrepectful to both their peers and instructors (the instructors dealt with that, for the most part fairly quick).
7 - Many had no clue how bad of an example they set for others and for the community they lived in as students. I literally saw a kid come into the cafeteria the school runs, dressed up like the Joker from a recent Batman movie. He looked like, well, a clown. Everyone knew he was a NECI student, and it made us all look like idiots. Others would show up in the cafeteria wearing their wrinkled pajamas - this is fine in your own home kitchen, but not in a place where, like it or not, you are representing the school you attend.
8. Many had no patience whatsoever. What they wanted, they wanted now, and didn't feel they needed to either wait or work for it.
Were there exceptions? Certainly. I met some very hard working, dedicated and focused young men and women while there, and I'm proud to call them my friends. But, unfortunately, they were in the minority.
It would be easy to blame their parents for such things, but I believe, at a certain point, a person needs to take responsibility for themselves.
These kids were raised the way they were raised, and perhaps it didn't prepare them for the things they face today. But, at some point, they need to man/woman-up and accept the fact that life isn't going to be like it was at home.
I understand that the challenges young folks face today are far different than those faced by my generation. But this doesn't excuse bad attitudes, behavior, demeanor, academic performance, personal responsibility, and respect for others. To me, these attributes apply to any generation, past, present, or future.
Frankly, I think Marsalis is spot on. Parents should stop coddling their kids - the world, quite frankly, is not fair. Not everyone gets to be Victor Wooten, Marcus Miller, or Stanley Clarke. Not everyone gets to be President, a CEO, or a rockstar. You're not going to be told you're doing a good job if you aren't. This doesn't mean people can't have a great and fulfilling life by any means. It does mean that young folks, IMHO should worry less about instant gratification (that Marsalis alludes to here) and more about working hard to be the very best they can be given the talents, skills and gifts that they have.
To those who note that things are "harder" today than they were in the past (need a degree, have student loans to pay off, tough job market, etc., etc.) I'll say this - you can look at them as either challenges or excuses. Those who succeed in my experience view them as challenges, develop a plan to overcome them and execute it. Those who view them as excuses, well, let's just say that in my experience these folks don't do so well. As the saying goes, if you're not part of the solution you're a part of the problem. In other words, if you're not actively taking these challenges on to the best of your ability and working hard to overcome them, you have only yourself to blame.
For the record, I left college (in the late 80s) with about $6500 of school debt (at a public college). I'll leave this one with about $10K (gotta love the post 911 GI Bill!). Most of my peers will leave with far more than that, and that's very unfortunate. However, as posters have noted, that is the world we live in now. It doesn't make it necessarily right, and it sure doesn't seem fair, but it is what it is. My advice to young folks is simply this - the sooner you stop seeing the world how you think it should be and view it instead as it really is, the sooner you will move ahead and succeed in life. Pursue your dreams, seek your ideals, but be prepared to surmount many challenges along the way without complaint if you wish to meet your goals.
My two cents,
Alan