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Divorce for Christmas

blindeddie

blindeddie

Nov 29, 2005
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knoxville, tennessee
#1
So my wife decides to tell me about three weeks ago, that she wants a divorce. right before christmas, she springs this on me. what a terrible way to spend the holidays. this has to be the worst christmas ever. she couldn't have waited a month? what's worse is i didn't even see it coming. honestly, the thought would've never crossed my mind. thirteen years down the drain. and i can't even figure out why. this sucks bad. humbug!
 
#6
Eddie, are you me???

:eek:

Dude, back in '02, I had the precise same experience:

Just after Thanksgiving (Nov. 30, 2002), my now ex-wife walked into a gig on a break (note: I had to finish two more sets! :mad: :spit: ) to tell me she had packed her things and was moving to her sister's house.

We'd been together 13 years.

I knew things weren't "perfect", but believed deep down inside that we really loved each other and would work things out.


...get the lawyer, you'll be happy you did, friend. :(

There's no "good time" for this to happen, but you're right, this time of year, it really sucks. :spit:

On the positive side, life goes on, do yourself a favor, don't do what I did and fight it for another 2 years! Let go, and move on, there's a whole world out there, go enjoy it, because you only have a limited time to do so, and wallowing in sadness and self-pity is a total waste of your life.
 
#8
thanks man. i've already seen a lawyer, and he's writing up the papers as we speak. i'll tell you one thing for sure, i'm not gonna sit around and listen to The Cure... i'm pissed off. what sucks is that i'm going to have to loose my house and probably my dog!
i guess i'm just going to have to trade the old lady in on a newer model.
 
#9
Most women really go downhill appearance-wise after 40 or so. Just hit the gym, get yourself a hot younger girlfriend, and laugh at the heartless, fickle **** and her new boyfriend as you watch her deteriorate.

:ninja:
 
#10
blindeddie said:
thanks man. i've already seen a lawyer, and he's writing up the papers as we speak. i'll tell you one thing for sure, i'm not gonna sit around and listen to The Cure... i'm pissed off. what sucks is that i'm going to have to loose my house and probably my dog!
i guess i'm just going to have to trade the old lady in on a newer model.
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No kids? You're a lucky man. Divorce is 10 times harder with kids (although dogs can be kind of harsh, there's really no comparison).

You can probably sell the house and split the value, unless Tennessee is a lot different than Texas.
 
#12
Ed, yeah, that was out of line. Even she owned up to it a few months later, that she did it to hurt me and make me twist in the breeze, because she knew that I was the type of person that would not walk out on my band. I don't even remember the rest of that gig...they said I played just fine, but that I said nothing, made no eye contact, loaded up and left...

Eddie, the house can be replaced, the dog sucks - but there's not much you can do about it if she's dead set on keeping him (a custody battle over a dog will be crazy, but it does happen...I don't recommend it...bad enough with kids, not really worth it for a dog, as much as I love my pets, if wife #2 and I were to ever split, she wants 'em, she can keep 'em...as for the kids I now have, well, I'm a stepdad, so that's that.).

As for listening habits, I recommend some Sepultura or maybe Slayer. ;) Being pissed is good...but I know that swings around a LOT in your situation...today you're pissed, tomorrow you'll be on your knees in tears in the shower (been there, done that, got the t-shirt man...:bawl: ). Try to find a "center" quickly and STAY in it at all costs. Surround yourself with supportive friends - NOT guys that will talk trash about what a ******* **** your soon-to-be-ex is, but guys & girls that will just support you, positively.

I learned a lot from my divorce, I hope you don't learn it as painfully as I did, friend.
 
#17
man, all of OUR friends are on my side about this too! they can't believe it either. and they ALL say that she's screwing up, and will end up regretting it and come crawling back in 6 months. but you know, i won't be there.:mad: i just can't take her back after this. she's told me a thousand times that she doesn't love me. she's turned her back on me, and left me sitting at home alone while she stays gone all the time. i just can't feel the same about her after all this.
 
#19
pointbass said:
The dog is going, too ??? Man, don't let her take your bass, ship it to me and I'll hold it for 'ya .... :cool: Us FBB brothers have to watch each others backs ...
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man, i know what you mean, but i actually just put the FBB up on ebay this morning.
i hate it, but i need the cash. i'm also selling my motorcycle. :( i'm bummed about all of it, but now i've got lawyer fees, and i'm going to have to pay rent somewhere while i STILL pay my part of the mortgage til the house sells...
so, it'll be a cold day in hell before i let her have my friggin' dog:mad:
 
#20
My first question would of been "whats his name?". My hubby did the same thing to me about 5 years ago....found out it was his x-girlfriend and that she was also married. Ironically she was from Tennessee, and a preachers daughter. So I went psycho, called her husband (who was cluessless that his wife was screwing my husband), called her mom and dad, and then called the church that she worked at. She dumped my husband after all the drama...and like a knucklehead I took him back...things will never be the same, and I regret that we did get back together now.
Anyway....holidays are hard....but the promise of a new year and new beginings are around the corner!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 

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