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Drummer kept the cash. Worth saying something?

#42
This is something, IMO, you shouldn't even be questioning.

lfmn16 said:
Your issue is with the band leader, not the drummer. Tell the band leader you agreed to play for $100 and only got $50. He may not even be aware that you were cheated.
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That's it, right there. "You guys still owe me $50 as per our agreement."

If you don't ask for the money then I think you ought to start practicing assertiveness. Lots of books on it. You are showing a lack of respect, for yourself, if you don't ask for what you agreed to. There is nothing to feel guilty or wrong about here. They're in the wrong. You have every right to, and should request your payment. They will have much more respect for you if you ask than if you don't. Not requesting it is not going to make them like more, as in, "He's a cool easy going guy." It will more likely make you look spineless, unprofessional, and lacking in confidence.
 
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#45
Wars get started because people don't express themselves honestly "for fear of causing offence". Rather let it fester for a while, then completely over-react when you can't take it anymore, that seems to be the polite, "civilized" way to do things in our screwed-up world! Like so many others have said, you should have queried the half-pay immediately - it's not petty to expect to get what you've been promised, or to demand it, it's simply honest and clear and avoids misunderstanding. The longer you wait to bring it up, the more petty and possibly dishonest it makes you look - and the less likely it is that you'll ever play with them again, either because you feel cheated or because they think you tried to swindle an extra $50 out of them. Learn this lesson, it's an important one!
 
#49
You need to let the band leader know what happened, and do it today. Last night would have been better, but too late for that now.

I would not assign blame, question who knew what or who was supposed to do what. Just state what happened and ask for the $50 you are owed. Let them sort it out.

If the answer comes back "the drummer says he gave you the full $100," let the bandleader know that you won't be playing for them again unless you get the payment up front.

Aside from protecting your own interests, it's important that the bandleader is informed as to what happened. If the drummer is ripping you off today, maybe he's going to be ripping off others in the band tomorrow.
 
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#53
Not your zoo, not your monkey.

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Broach the subject with the zookeeper. Don’t argue with the monkey.
 
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#56
Nothing new to add, but had to throw in my voice.

If he did this to you, he likely does this. Unless he truly needs the money and cannot come clean (I've had a friend steal from me and accepted it, because he needed to eat and would never ask for help) this is a simple, basic issue. And he appears to know it (he avoided you) so it wasn't a misunderstanding, it was theft.

And that's not cool. There is enough shady business in music without musicians stabbing each other in the back.
 
#57
Ask him if the bar made him pay ASCAP or some thing. Or is it not a cover band ?
Maybe look into this if you don't like getting ripped off or ripping off. It's great for your future career.

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