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For the "my wife will kill me" crowd

#81
My wife threw a shoe at me once when I told her I was thinking about another bass.
The two basses I have currently, I bought without asking. I'm about to get another custom job started and I gave her a heads-up, making clear that I was not asking for permission. It's not the wisest purchase, but I just feel like doing it. She asked that I wait until after the holidays, or for my bonus at work (March), or my birthday (June). A perfectly reasonable request which I may or may not heed.
 
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#82
My wife of 29 years is very patient with me and my GAS disease.
She has cancer, so she get's whatever she wants at this point, and has stopped caring much about the family finances.
And she understands my music is important to me, and is somewhat an escape from the reality we face.
I do make sure she knows when I'm boxing up a bass to ship out that one just like it will likely come in the next few days.
That's the system that works for us.
 
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I am married to a patient woman. For 6 years I promised to remove the "overrun" from our office because we have a dedicated bass closet. And the overrun is still there. However, I have chipped away nicely recently she kinda hit her limit.

I can't complain though. Lots of basses in the house...
 
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my finace/GF has never questioned any purchase I have ever made, and probably never will. I would hate to live in a world where I had to hide or ask permission. We always discuss major purchases. she keeps an account of her own for things like that and so do I.

I do have to warn her of when White Castles are on the dinner menu though, but that is not for the money reasons
 
#88
My wife has been pretty good, while we have a very limited income, space and two young kids. If I need something for my music I can get it. Gas for the sake of gas doesn't happen.

If I sell a bass I can use that money and space for another single bass. We don't have space for me to expand the quantities. Pedals have a lot more leeway.

When I have needed a better backup bass, I set my own budget (less than $100) and it was agreed that I would get something playable (that is all I wanted - specifically for backup). That bass becoming my current main bass is purely random chance.

When I had to take the smaller car for rehearsals due to two kids in the big one I was able to get a smaller amp to match.

Our band is sorely lacking in the backing vocal dept (I can't do them all myself) so I have been allowed to spend almost $400 on a vocal harmony pedal. It's a big investment but it is on the 'need' side of the equation for my band and I will hopefully use it for years to come.
 
#90
Bikes_n_Bass said:
Happy wife, happy life. Buy some stuff the wife thinks takes up too much space in the house and she won't kill me so much as make me wish I were dead. The looks, the comments, dang, just makes my eye twitch thinkin' about it.
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Yep. All my wife has to do is be a bit disapproving and I turn into jello. So much for macho! That's OK. It's because I really do care a lot about what she thinks. She doesn't understand the guitar thing, although she helped me pick out the drum kit and was very enthusiastic about the upright bass. She keeps saying she might play the drums a bit. I wish she would, because it's a blast and I love sharing things that are fun with her.
 
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Duder said:
Don't get me wrong, she's very supportive of my music, but she also brings me back down to earth when I get distracted by something shiny that I don't actually need. She has allowed me to purchase the following items since we've been married:
Fender banjo, Yamaha acoustic guitar, upright piano, vintage Hammond organ, GK 700RB-ii, and an Ibanez GSR-190 as a backup bass. I'm probably still missing something. She's pretty good to me.
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Your wife let you buy a Hammond B-3? I am impressed Sir.
 
#96
I almost had a "my wife will kill me" moment today. I decided to stop into a local pawn shop that tends to have a few decent scores now and then. Mind you I just spent WAY too much money purchasing and repairing the 700RB-ii my wife let me buy so I have zero business looking at anything that isn't necessary for living. They had a beat up '97 Squier P hanging on the wall. It used to be white, but has aged to that nice cream color. When I say beat up, I mean it has some scars, missing a tone knob, rusty strings, and probably needs a new nut. The neck looked pretty good and felt comfortable. They're asking $80 and I'm certain I can talk them down lower because of the work I'd have to do. However, being the wise man and recalling this very thread (I know, it's only $80, but money's tight), I called my wife and immediately told her "you're going to be very frustrated with me." She was. After she vented for a moment she said "what do you want me to say?" I told her "just tell me I'm being silly and to leave the shop." That's what she did and that's what I did. I told a fellow TB member about it in case he wanted a project. Some guys might call me a wimp, but as someone said a few posts earlier: happy wife, happy life.
 
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Monday, a friend of mine at work, told me that over the weekend, she and her husband counted their guitars and basses: 130+. Most of which are HERS.
I'll bet none of you saw THAT coming, did you?!
(She told me that if I outlive her and her husband, she's leaving her instruments to me, in her Will. She said there is no way in heck she would want her step children to get their hands on her stuff. I'm not all that enthusiastic about the idea. I have enough stuff of my own, to contend with.)
 
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