man, I just can't stop with this....
"Commercial Success" sounds awful, but think about it like folks were making a product, not "music". Beer, for example. The biggest selling beer in the US is uniformly believed to be the most mediocre example of "beer" in the entire world - yet it sells more than any other. One need look no further than prime-time TV to see how mediocrity is the choice of most consumers.
So I get the urge to reject all things "popular" - My first instinct is usually to shun things of too many folks like them - and for that I have missed out on some good stuff (The masses *are* on occasion right!). So I get the rejection of pop music thing, I completely get that. But as an adult, I have had time to consider those things that I appreciate and respect - So to me, "alternative" music is jazz and funk, not metal. Why? Well, I like the things that these genres embody and I do not like the things that "metal" embodies. I used to - when I was a young guy in the service, I listed to LOTS of what you'd call metal back then (we called it "killing civilians music". Real cheery, eh?). But now - I guess I just reject all the darkness and noise around metal - - the implicit violence and rage - - where with Jazz, I *love* that guys wear a tie to play it, where women try to look nice - - it seem... Respectful of the audience. Funk? I *love* the whole outlandish Bootsy/George Clinton zanyness - it's playful and fun...
Oh - and like the music better to. Quite subjective, I know, but hey - music preference *is* subjective, yes?