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I CAN'T MAKE UP MY MIND ABOUT MEN!!!!!!!

#561
disenchant said:
They made fun of him if he ditched "guys night out" (which was every Friday and Saturday night) to hang out with me. We're talking about guys who start drinking and smoking pot at 10 in the morning while they play video games until it's time to go out.
Aaaaahhhhhh, OK Disenchant here is your reality check "you are hanging with Deutchbags" Here is your first piece of advice: don't date boys that play video games all day because I can assure that men don't do that.
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#562
Musiclogic said:
Here's a scoop Disenchant.......In today's society, Men have bought into the stereotypes put forth about men. Lazy, stupid, couch potatos who watch sports and porn, and have horrible personal hygiene.

Welcome to society. You need a man with a mind, goals, direction, and focus. He's not necessarilly going to be HOT, and not always going to be an Adonis. Find a guy with a brain, and you will have a much better chance of finding committment, and devotion, as well as passion and ambition.

The more that physical appearance comes into play, the more YOU will have to work to find one suitable. Those that are driven by looks, style, and fashion, rarely have time to develop intellectually or in maturity, as their focus is on look and status.

There are plenty of good lookin guys that are looking for relationships, but you need to frequent the places where they frequent. I don't know Elgin well, so I can't help there, but think toward more intellectual frequented places, from Museums, and Art galleries to Coffee Houses and Dinner Club type places if they are prevolent in your area.

I met my wife in a Coffee House, when I was 34. I'm 41 now, and couldn't be happier. I was going through the same type of dillema with women, as you are with men.
Good Luck to you
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I'm not usually one to put looks above personality. While I find physical attraction to be important, I think I have a pretty broad idea of what I think is attractive.

I think it's funny you mention Museums, Art Galleries and Coffee Houses, definitely not the type of places I usually hang :D I think I'm more of the loud and rambunctious type. Sitting still and being quiet is not one of my skills. That's why I avoid libraries and coffeehouses!

I think physical appearance says a lot about a person. How they dress, the way they wear their hair all says something about their personality.

Prolly I just need to chill and do my thing. Thanks for the insight!
 
#563
disenchant said:
I'm not usually one to put looks above personality. While I find physical attraction to be important, I think I have a pretty broad idea of what I think is attractive.

I think it's funny you mention Museums, Art Galleries and Coffee Houses, definitely not the type of places I usually hang :D I think I'm more of the loud and rambunctious type. Sitting still and being quiet is not one of my skills. That's why I avoid libraries and coffeehouses!

I think physical appearance says a lot about a person. How they dress, the way they wear their hair all says something about their personality.

Prolly I just need to chill and do my thing. Thanks for the insight!
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LOL....exactly, do your thing......by the way, did I mention I was a Metalhead, and probably as loud and obnoxious as anyone of my time.....LMAO

Now I'm an old married Metalhead, and still loud....LMAO
Best of luck
 
#566
disenchant said:
Ah so even rambunctions Metalheads get married! Good to know! There IS hope!
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Yep:D After I came off the road, and started my shop as a full time business, I finally realized she was my life. :p

You have time, and besides, you have it better than I do, you're gorgeous, where as I was just another longhair in a world of GQ wannabes.....LMAO:bassist::D
 
#573
disenchant said:
I give up. I give up on men, I give up on dating, I JUST GIVE UP!!!! I'm becoming a NUN. Or...an old cat lady.

Why, why, why do the men I date all tell me THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP RIGHT NOW?? Obviously that's code for "I don't want a relationship with YOU." OK, I get it. I smell funny or something. I get it.

Bass Boy didn't want to get married yet. Said it would slow him down. Had asked 2 other girls to marry him earlier and they shot him down so he wasn't asking ever again. He's not dating anyone now...maybe he's gay, I don't know. He's the one that hangs out with fat married chicks.

Then there was Non-Bass Boy. He did some kind of flip-out and stopped answering his phone. Thought he wasn't interested, but then I get weird e-mails telling me how he's depressed and that he's been sitting around watching Netflix for the past 2 weeks. Ok, he need a therapist. Plus, some girl he wanted to marry shot him down.

Why is it guys don't want to marry, oh EVER, or have relationships, EVER AGAIN after being shot down? Don't they realize that some OTHER girl might be THE ONE?

This is why I give up. I'm going to marry my bass.
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I bet there are alot of pretty girls out there that would treat you nice
 
#578
disenchant said:
The problem is I'm here and they are there. Some of the awesome ones are 700 miles away!
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Ok here's how this works. The guy (and NEVER the girl) gets off his dumb ass and moves to where the girl is. I know, blah blah blah I can't find a job, blah blah blah...BS.

If you meet one one of these guys in person and you really hit it off, he moves to whereever you are. If they won't do that, they're gay.
 
#579
69nites said:
I personally know a few decent guys in your area

they exist go find them lol

now try looking for a decent girl in chicagoland.... THEY DON'T EXIST!!!
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It's funny, Illinois and Jersey seem to have the most women on chats, no wonder the guys can't find them.....LMAO

Get off the computer girls, the guys are waiting....LMAO

J/K
 
#580
Skel said:
Ok here's how this works. The guy (and NEVER the girl) gets off his dumb ass and moves to where the girl is. I know, blah blah blah I can't find a job, blah blah blah...BS.

If you meet one one of these guys in person and you really hit it off, he moves to whereever you are. If they won't do that, they're gay.
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That's only happened to me once. (The moving part, not the gay part.) We're divorced.
 

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