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I CAN'T MAKE UP MY MIND ABOUT MEN!!!!!!!

#621
jive1 said:
I'm gonna give you a piece of advice from a woman who has married well to great guy that loves and adores her. That lady is my wife. ;)

Make a list of what you want in a life partner. Use categories like spirituality, career, intimacy, sexuality, hobbies, physical appearance, etc. Be as detailed as you want. Then take that list and pick 5-10 of the most important qualities.
The reason for doing this is so that you don't shoot down a potential "Mr. Right" for something irrelevant, even though he has the most essential qualities you are looking for. It will also help you determine who "Mr. Wrong" is, and might prevent you from wasting your biological clock time on a relationship that is going nowhere.

Next make a list of what you are willing to put up with. The concept of "I want someone perfect who accepts me as I am" is one of biggest detriments to finding a partner. You are not perfect and neither is your partner. So, decide what you are willing to put up with. This will help you decide who is really "Mr Wrong" vs "Mr. Right" who may have a few rough edges.

You're an attractive woman with a nice personality, so finding men to approach you shouldn't be the issue. It's the right man approaching you, that is. Resolve that issue by knowing what Mr. Right should look like.

Hope this helps. If not, blame my wife.
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I got the same advice from my church! So it must be good advice! I've been working on my list, it's mysterously short so I'm thinking maybe my standards are too low. My mom thinks I need to date guys who have equal intelligence to me. I'm no genius by any means, but I guess a lot of the guys I've dated weren't equal in intelligence. A friend suggested I try to look uglier so guys won't be attracted to my looks. I'm not sure about THAT advice! My mom also suggested I stuff my bra. Again, not great advice...isn't that false advertising?

Another friend suggested that I might be intimidating. I know I might be small, but I'm mighty!

So I'll work on my list. That seems like the best advice for now!
 
#622
disenchant said:
Another friend suggested that I might be intimidating. I know I might be small, but I'm mighty!

So I'll work on my list. That seems like the best advice for now!
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My Mom told me long ago, that there are many "highly qualified" women that would love to have a man, but unfortunately too many are intimidated by her. So my advice for the single guys is "GO FOR IT!"

Good on you for holding out for a man who wants you, and is willing to pursue you. You deserve nothing less.
 
#623
jive1 said:
My Mom told me long ago, that there are many "highly qualified" women that would love to have a man, but unfortunately too many are intimidated by her. So my advice for the single guys is "GO FOR IT!"

Good on you for holding out for a man who wants you, and is willing to pursue you. You deserve nothing less.
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Awwww, thanks! This makes up for trying to pimp me out for $100. Well, almost :D
 
#632
You don't need a man. Concentrate on yourself, your hobbies, your work, your friends and family.

I gave up on women, and I'm a lot happier than when I was always trying and worrying about getting dates, and about relationships.

Of course, it's probably easier for me, since I don't have women throwing themselves at me like guys always do to attractive women.
 
#637
Well ma'am I have some news for you, and its probably going to shock the hell out of you. Ready?

Guys are just as diverse as women are in terms of what makes us happy and what we want. We all like food and sex. However we difer on what little things we want in a relationship.

Maybe this analogy explains it better: Lets think of a relationship as an empty jar. Now to fill that jar you start with some big rocks and those will fill up a lot of that jar, but their will still be a lot of room. So you go get some pepples and you put those in the jar. The jar gets a little bit more full, but you still have a little bit of room. So to fill in the rest of the jar you add some kind of liquid. Now you have a full jar and a healthy relationship.

For most guys sex is like the big rocks you start with, food is like the pebbles, but we all like diferent liquid. You need it all to fill the relationship.
 

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