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I need cheering up...

#61
I'm 29. I've failed out of school several times. I've turned to alcohol (albeit 5+ years ago). Don't start drinking. That's the worst idea ever. Stop. Think. Write down all your options and go from there.

Right now you need a break. Exercise. Find a peaceful place to hike, walk around, or just hang out. Look into simple meditation. It'll take your mind off of things, even if only for a bit. Don't worry. You can salvage your life at any point.

You aren't a failure if you don't have a solid job and a family by the time you hit 30. This isn't the 1950s. Stay strong. Watch funny TV shows you like or go out to some stand up comedy or music shows you like. It's about feeling good any time you can for any length of time.

Believe that the universe wont abandon you. Good things will come and you will look back on this and realize you have come out a better person. Draw positivity from even the most dire of situations. Just don't hit the bottle. It'll make bad things so much worse.

Feel better man! People care about you and want the best for you. By addressing this you are taking the first positive step. Remember that. Remember where you are now. It's all up hill from here on.
 
#63
A non-serious reply: work out like mad for the next few months, get in really good shape, and glom onto an older divorced woman. Be a boy-toy. Leverage your sexual prowess into a nice bass and rig. Then you can jam with your friends!
 
#64
Kawai-chang said:
A non-serious reply: work out like mad for the next few months, get in really good shape, and glom onto an older divorced woman. Be a boy-toy. Leverage your sexual prowess into a nice bass and rig. Then you can jam with your friends!
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very interesting. :hmm:

i could definitely benefit from the working out.
not ready to meet people beyond friendship right now but still very interesting...
 
#65
jonathan_matos5 said:
very interesting. :hmm:

i could definitely benefit from the working out.
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Regardless of the perhaps-ulterior motive of attracting a new flame/fling, take care of yourself.
To clarify my earlier statement, I only meant that IMO it is a good thing NOT to understand the need to get someone out, whatever the cost(to some extent). I have not been there but have seen a friend or two go through it.
Anyway, Im still trying to come up w/something light/amusing/encouraging... It's early.. :rolleyes:
 
#67
carlthegroover said:
I don't think many people in their 30s have their stuff together. They just appear successful but they lead over-complicated lives with busy jobs and kids to feed; just a smokescreen that hides their confusion and lack of meaning in life. Take comfort that not everything is at it seems, and that many people who look "grounded" are not truly so...

Or so I like to think.
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No, I think youre absolutely right. Lots of peoples lives may look great at face value, but thats because they usually have their best face on when amongst company.
 
#71
slobake said:
I know this might be tough to hear but my suggestion is to embrace this tough time. Don't run from it but sit with it and learn as much as you can. I often grow the most when I am going through tough times. No one or nothing can really relieve the depression sometimes, I just have to hang on until it passes.
Okay there is one thing, you might want to try helping out others who are struggling. You could volunteer somewhere or just talk to someone who needs a friend. That and ice cream of course. :p
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Hear Hear! - I've been in your shoes several times and it always feels like everything is insurmountable. Make use of this time to not only access where you are in your life - but embrace it and WRITE - Some of the best things you will ever write are when you are in emotional peaks of troughs.

And don't worry at all about getting your s**t together @ 29 - took me until I was 37 to even look at the other side. Almost all artists go thru this - pick yourself up & dust off. you'll be stronger in the end.
 
#73
Breaking up is painful at the best of times. It's when this happens that some serious self-doubt can kick in. I like to make loads of phone calls and hook up whatever gigs I can, there's nothing like some serious playing to take your mind off crap and get you through the hard times

Keep your chin up!
 

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