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I'm divorced.

#63
Ay murphy. Hang in there! It does get better for sure. Believe me. So much suck at first it's hard to believe but when you get to the other side, you'll see it was all ok. I hit some dark times for sure. Too dark to talk about but if I could get through them, I think you can too. The bottoms there, and no use lying, you're going to get there but when the upswing starts, it's marvelous. Hang in there friend.
 
#64
crikker said:
Hello TB. Here's an update for those that care. I'm still seeing that lovely lady from months ago. We're getting along great. She's in the same boat as me being that we don't want anything to do with marriage. Too many times burnt for us.

To be with someone that wants to be with you (rather than fighting) is so outstanding it feels good to be alive again. It's so great to to be able to interact with someone again without the constant threat of fighting. She's shown me that there are so many things out there to see that I was missing before. Watching her with her kids is fun too. I forget how much is involved with having kids and the dynamics with that. Good times.

My ex and I have to interact occasionally but it's on a strictly business level. It has to be about our kids or the divorce. Nothing else. She has moved out of the area and at first that was hard knowing she had left our life behind, but looking at it now, it's all for the better. No chance of running into her with someone or me with my girl. Far more better for the both of us.

If I can help any of you get through some poopy times, please send a message. If I can get through all the years that I had with my ex and survive, I bet you can too. Please let me help.
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I'm in it. :(
 
#65
crikker said:
Hello TB. Here's an update for those that care. I'm still seeing that lovely lady from months ago. We're getting along great. She's in the same boat as me being that we don't want anything to do with marriage. Too many times burnt for us.

To be with someone that wants to be with you (rather than fighting) is so outstanding it feels good to be alive again. It's so great to to be able to interact with someone again without the constant threat of fighting. She's shown me that there are so many things out there to see that I was missing before. Watching her with her kids is fun too. I forget how much is involved with having kids and the dynamics with that. Good times.

My ex and I have to interact occasionally but it's on a strictly business level. It has to be about our kids or the divorce. Nothing else. She has moved out of the area and at first that was hard knowing she had left our life behind, but looking at it now, it's all for the better. No chance of running into her with someone or me with my girl. Far more better for the both of us.

If I can help any of you get through some poopy times, please send a message. If I can get through all the years that I had with my ex and survive, I bet you can too. Please let me help.
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Good for you - I'm in a similar situation as well. Coming up on the 1 year anniversary with my lady friend and it is the healthiest relationship I've perhaps seen (and certainly been a part of). I still deal with anger and resentment toward my ex at times, but it's rare nowadays. Life is good.
 

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