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Is it wrong to think you're unattractive?
- Thread starter spade2you
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and another episode in the Thunderdome of the internet begins. Two men enter, both eventually leave.
Tat2dHeart
Only two strings away from an attitude problem.
However keeping it up is always a challenge
.Otherwise that sag effect really takes place....
I'm 5'6', I used to be thin, I've been over weight for over ten years and I'm bald. I shave my head, I have a beard, other than being overweight I keep my appearance up.
I was in marriage with a woman who seems to have had a personality on a par with your wife for 15 years. She did her best to beat me down and I put up with it as when I got married I was in it for the long hall. We tried counceling, we tried nearly everthing, but it didn't get better.
At age 48 I had a stroke. My wife didn't bother to come to the hospital. I decided then that I'd had enough. We seperated and after a few months I tried online dating. Although I'm 5' 6", overweight and bald I dated a lot. I met a few very nice women who liked being with me for who I am, not how I look. After my divorce was final I settled down with a wonderful woman who treats me great, I'm a lucky guy.
I own a mirror, I know that I might not be the physical specimen that women may dream of, but I believe in treating women sweet and letting them know how special they are, it goes a long way.
Lastly, my own thoughts about looks go like this. I've met women whom I thought were stunning when I met them. As I got to know them better they became less and less attractive due to their personalities. By the same token I met women whom seemed very average upon meeting in the looks department. The better that I got to know them the prettier they seemed. Inner beauty isn't a myth in my opinion.
Good luck in your relationship no matter what.
I was in marriage with a woman who seems to have had a personality on a par with your wife for 15 years. She did her best to beat me down and I put up with it as when I got married I was in it for the long hall. We tried counceling, we tried nearly everthing, but it didn't get better.
At age 48 I had a stroke. My wife didn't bother to come to the hospital. I decided then that I'd had enough. We seperated and after a few months I tried online dating. Although I'm 5' 6", overweight and bald I dated a lot. I met a few very nice women who liked being with me for who I am, not how I look. After my divorce was final I settled down with a wonderful woman who treats me great, I'm a lucky guy.
I own a mirror, I know that I might not be the physical specimen that women may dream of, but I believe in treating women sweet and letting them know how special they are, it goes a long way.
Lastly, my own thoughts about looks go like this. I've met women whom I thought were stunning when I met them. As I got to know them better they became less and less attractive due to their personalities. By the same token I met women whom seemed very average upon meeting in the looks department. The better that I got to know them the prettier they seemed. Inner beauty isn't a myth in my opinion.
Good luck in your relationship no matter what.
This post brought about my first smile of the day. You win!
However keeping it up is always a challenge
Not yet its not!
Well, there was that time at my last birthday party...
Imagine starting a relationship that way?! "This never happens, I swear it!" (thankfully it hasnt happened since).
To which degree?
Id say I agree with the statement.
Perspective on people changes as you get to know them.
Physical attraction can increase or decrease as the true self is revealed.
Sexist as it sounds, I think it fits more with a male mode of thinking.
The physical is part of "the package". It identifies it. So if the woman doesn't like the wrapping...
I dont know, I think it could also apply to women. Theres more to physicality than just "the wrapping".
Id say it likely depends on what the woman is looking for in a man.
Looks are an asset to a guy tho because if your experience is hinged (and I'm thinking of the most common aspect) on who you like that will also "approve" of you, they aren't going to be able to be the foundation. She who makes the decisions (face it guys, you know you just don't) creates the criteria. And it turns to appearance as the most base form of first impressions.
Ever since she convinced me to get plastic surgery Ive been the one calling all the shots!
Guess you've never had a girl come up to you before, eh? I see what you're saying and will agree that that happens that way more often than not, but it certainly doesn't only happen that way.
Imagine just a page ago I was wrong about everything....
And yea, that's how it's been. (Your approaching comment)
And THAT is what we call puppetry. (I'm playing off your words, not believing any of that; you're too good humored to have had any IMO)
Aw come on, man. I pulled that from Mad Max Beyond Thunderdome.
Never got into mad max; only knew the quote "two men enter, one man leaves" as it was used as a song intro to an album.
