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I've never been so mad or hurt...
- Thread starter NateS
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That's no way of getting a girl back, if anything i learned from 80's movies is that the best way of getting a girl back is:
or getting few of your buddies together and doing this:
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Make sure it's Peter Gabriel on your tape...
jmattbassplaya said:
Ha. I forgot to mention time scale - we met in January. I'll be honest, I knew it wasn't going to be a marriage or anything, but I saw everything go a completely different way. Don't.worry about being an ass
jmattbassplaya said:Dude, why the heck are you talking to him anymore, anyways?!
I haven't since Monday, which consisted of me telling him he.was just as much a piece of **** as she is, and since they both only think of their own respective orgasms, they deserve each other perfectly (even though he's never made her o like I have. Funny how that works out.)
Another funny part, we met as bandmates and became best friends. He's my brother I never had. I lived at his house as a second son to his family for almost a month. When me and Mary first starts dating, she said that she'd never forgive herself if she came between us, she could never be "a yoko ono". Ha.
Random bits of advice to all those to read.
ALWAYS listen to your fellow Talkbassists... I posted a whole thing on my relationship issue and they all gave great advice. However, I started to think with my heart and not my head and went against what everyone said (that rhymes.... I will copyright that right now so whenever I get band and write a cheesy love song) I tried to get her back. I tried really hard... the other night, after she cancels plans on me (there was possibility of them being canceled when I made them) I catch her sitting with that guy that she supposedly cheated on me with. His leg was over hers, and they were sitting shoulder to shoulder. Despite what I did, how much I poured my heart out to her, it was all futile. She broke me twice and made me break myself. Restarting the healing process sucks so much.
This leads me to my next bit of advice.. once a cheap skanky dirty piece of slut bagging town bike... always a cheap skanky dirty piece of slut bagging town bike.
ALWAYS listen to your fellow Talkbassists... I posted a whole thing on my relationship issue and they all gave great advice. However, I started to think with my heart and not my head and went against what everyone said (that rhymes.... I will copyright that right now so whenever I get band and write a cheesy love song) I tried to get her back. I tried really hard... the other night, after she cancels plans on me (there was possibility of them being canceled when I made them) I catch her sitting with that guy that she supposedly cheated on me with. His leg was over hers, and they were sitting shoulder to shoulder. Despite what I did, how much I poured my heart out to her, it was all futile. She broke me twice and made me break myself. Restarting the healing process sucks so much.
This leads me to my next bit of advice.. once a cheap skanky dirty piece of slut bagging town bike... always a cheap skanky dirty piece of slut bagging town bike.
Papa Dangerous said:
Oh yea, I had meant to pm you again to see how things were going.
So, TB opinion, should I put the geeb on her doorstep?
I spent my two days off doing absolutely nothing. Just feeling crappy because I had no option in really going since I am stick in the damn sticks. However, I have a work week ahead of me and that should keep me distracted enough. Let me read what this geeb thing is, and I will let you know.
I cant turn to mind altering substances in times like these. My mind is sometimes too much and do not want to get stuck in a rut. I have been hitting the good stuff for like 8 years now, but last September I stopped because I was job searching. Did not get one until ten months later. I do not have a means of collecting where I live now and thus I just do not do it as much. Last time I did the deed, one tonk (just coined that) got me bonked (just coinded that too for the sake of a rhyme).
I have not even gotten drunk over the situation... what kind of man am I?!
The more time you spend planning revenge, the less time you have to follow Maki's advice.
You're young, she's young, you've both got a lot to learn about relationships. Forgive as much as you can, learn as much as you can ... and go tap everything in sight until you feel better.
What sucks is that no matter what I do, no matter what I look at, no matter how hard I try and do something, there is always something that reminds me of her. I guess I am a sentimental #$*% but whenever I share a moment like that with someone, I have a hard time replacing that person involved. She mentioned that she wanted to do this hand fastening ritual... I never heard of it before, but it sounded like the next big step... I still think the idea of what it is so pure and great, but I do not think I could ever go through with it with anyone else. 
Agreed. Revenge is not worth it really... Although I still think about beating this guy down with a lead pipe... but I wont..
Papa Dangerous said:
Same. That plus an almost crippling s.a.d makes it very hard to talk to girls. That first night in January, we were sitting there talking and I was literally trembling.
jmattbassplaya said:That probably had more to do with it being January and balls-cold outside
Nah. It constantly effects me, even in every day life - I even always feel like people on other cars are judging my driving.
I think I am down for investing into a microchip that has satellite GPS. Next time I ask a girl out, we get drunk and I am injecting it into her body. I will know where she is at all times!
Papa Dangerous said:
My drive to work passes both her school and her house, and is the same path she takes to go between the two. I also live about 3 minutes away from where she spends about 60% of her off campus time. Ive never had the feelings I have now - I spend my entire drive looking at every white suv to see if its her. I'm paralyzingly afraid of ever actually seeing her, living the life we both wanted to live, of getting ****ed up and partying, but without me.
Papa Dangerous said:
Moderately creepy and possibly illegal, but it doesn't sound like that bad of an idea. Lol
It's funny that I came across this thread again when I did. That damn girl Ive been trying to get over for the past 4 months recently entered my thoughts again. A lot of the advice in here has helped me out. Ive got 2 years of HS left, I should be going nuts, but instead I've been wallowing in self pity for the past few weeks.
I don't think I'll really be okay until I can say 'F her, imma go get me some underclassman p00n' and actually mean it. But until I've reached that point, I've got a long playlist of sad music and some time to reflect.
OP, I'm sorry to hear this new info has come up and made things worse. I wouldn't waste time on revenge, ultimately someone like that isn't worth it. Have you tried exercising? Back when I did it it really helped me to clear my head. Then I got lazy. Lol
I know exactly how you feel. I am constantly thinking of how she is living her life, and doing the things we used to, but with someone else. That I will never get to be the one that lays next to her, wraps my arm around her without millimeter of space between us. I used to wake up in the middle of the night, look at her sleeping, smile, kiss her shoulder and fall back into the deepest of sleeps until she woke me up in the morning for work. I used to sleep so well and would never want to get up.. I would just grab her back into bed for a few more minutes... Now, I wake up several times during the night, and when I eventually get up in the morning, its sometimes more an hour earlier because I just can't sleep anymore. My REM sleep has been replaced by like stage 3 or 4 sleep in which all I do is think about her.
They say time heals, and from all these experiences a person learns a life long lesson. The only time I seem to be getting from this is that I should never open myself up to a person like that because I cannot imagine having to go through this all over again. Puh... I was almost distracted and doing better and here I go ranting and raving about the things I should not be thinking.
