To really understand, I need to explain a lot that I don't really want to type in a public board, but after pming two people, I figure that's kind of pointless, and I have Jo pride anyway. Please forgive any bad language that doesn't get blocked, I don't have time to reread the post, I'm on my phone at work. Mods feel free to fix anything that gets through
My relationship formed out of a love triangle of sorts. My ex, Mary, was originally hooking up with my best friend, Evan. I met her at a party I had, that Evan invited her. Me and Evan have always been super close, and had a threesome with a girl before. Playing kings, it came up in "never have I ever", and she was like "awesome". We had a threesome that night. I started talking to her, and we became friends, and I got feelings for her. She had some feelings for Evan, but he had none - it was only a **** buddy to him. When she realised that, I guess, she started talking to me more, and we ended up hitting it off, so I thought, and started dating. Evan goes to college at jmu, 2 hours away, Mary goes to UR, which is in the city of Richmond, and I don't go to school, and live in downtown Richmond. We spent all of our time together, and were pretty heavy on each other when Evan came back from school in the summer, for a week before going to lake George, new York for the summer. I didn't know until we broke up, but Mary ****ed him during that 2 week period that he was in town, "because we never had closure and I wanted to give him that". We were deeply into each other all summer, she told me she was glad she had chosen to give me a shot and I was amazing and she loved me and was glad she was able to get over Evan and date me. She went away for a month to he a camp counselor in Maryland, and we promised to wait for her to come back. On two weekends she had off she even came back to Richmond and stayed at my apartment with me, we were together and in love and having so much sex and smoking so much weed and did drugs together and was just...happy. she came back from camp a week before Evan came back from lake George, and things were fine. He came back and she just instantly fell over his dick again - right in front of me. Flirting with both of us at the same time. That week we had another threesome, which I had kinda wanted but not the way it came about. He was in town for just the one week, and she was just constantly on his bones. I said, look, what's going on, this is annoying, and she apologized and we tried to fix things, but then when college started she just decided to break up with me. She told me that she wanted to be single, she needed to take better care of herself - she has type 1 diabetes - she wanted to do better in school, she wanted things to be different this school year than last, which she spent hopping from one bed to another and doing poorly in school. We stretched a breakup over about 3 weeks, with me doing everything I could and just finding out that everything she said sue wanted, she didn't, I just wasn't enough for her and she didn't want to even try to hang out as friends, even though she said she did. Finally we split, and I talked all about it to Evan. He said is was sorry, and came down on a Sunday to hang out with me, it I ended up having to work a morning and a night shift, so we acually only had about 2 hours to chill. While he was in town, waiting for me to get off with work, they hooked up again. I could tell as soon as we met and he was like "no problem on the wait, i...took a nap".
Basically, she never stopped ****ing him, at all, he just wasn't in town. When he for hack from college she ****ed him, behind my back, when he got back from lake George she ****ed him, forcing me to join in, and after we broke up, she jumped right back on his ****.
Evan doesn't care about her. He told me that in march, when I first stated talking to her. Ater the argument we got into last night he says he doesn't want to lose his best friend and she doesn't mean anything to him still. I don't know if I believe him though. I just feel like because Evan would **** her, he meant more to her and was more appealing to her, than me doing anything and everyhing for her. He doesn't care, and will always treat her like ****, but his **** is better than my entire existance.
That's in in a nutshell.
Edit:fixed all the cuss words I saw. Sorry all
). Be happy it ended now and not later on. Things still won't be easy for a while, but you'll make leaps and bounds with your progress now that you have this figured out. I also suggest you start figuring out which girls were waiting for you to be back on the market and seek their comfort 
