Agreed, and no worries.
Yeah, I'm with you for the most part, but I don't hang with narrow minded musicians much if I can help it. It's just no fun for me. I just bailed on a band that was very single-minded about which flavors of alt-country they would play. I knew that I'd never open them up to the spins that it would take to make me happy (way more eclectic than your list, even, but I dig yours!), so I walked as soon as I could gracefully do so.
I am lucky in that I can do sound for corporate, wedding, etc. GB things, and I generally only play stuff I really want to. IOW, money and "job obligations" are meaningless to me as a player. I made an exception last year to improve my jazz chops, and I'm trying to get to grips with where to go with that now. I have total respect for those with the approach you're talking about, and I prefer to work with people like that on a professional level, for the most part. The jazz group is like that, so I'll probably continue to attempt some growth in that direction.
Wedding gigs might constitute my line in the sand though...