Odd conversation with the wife today...

[dbsfgyd1]

So, I have a growing collection of basses. I am currently working on a kit bass that will be #14. I am painting it metallic purple with a white pearl pickguard and gold hardware.

I have another bass, a Squier Sonic Bronco, in the web exclusive purple color.

Now, my wife has stated that my son, who is also a bassist, gets all of my bass stuff except for these two purple basses, which she intends to keep.

So here is the strange part...she looks at me today and says, "You need to teach me how to play. When you're gone, and I have these basses, I want to be able to play them and remember you."

Now, I gotta say, I love my wife with every fiber of my being. She is absolutely amazing and supports me in every aspect of my life, especially my music. For heaven's sake, she was the one that told me to go back to the pawn shop and drop the $3k for the Ric 4001! Never flinched. Never said, "let's talk about this" it was just, "GO GET IT!"

So, now, I guess I am going to teach my wife how to play bass.

My wife? She’s of the opinion that any music below middle C is a waste of sonic space. LOL!! The disposition of my gear goes out of the house on its way to my son, a retired Marine Fleet Band bassist, at my last breath.

 

[godofthunder59]

So, I have a growing collection of basses. I am currently working on a kit bass that will be #14. I am painting it metallic purple with a white pearl pickguard and gold hardware.

I have another bass, a Squier Sonic Bronco, in the web exclusive purple color.

Now, my wife has stated that my son, who is also a bassist, gets all of my bass stuff except for these two purple basses, which she intends to keep.

So here is the strange part...she looks at me today and says, "You need to teach me how to play. When you're gone, and I have these basses, I want to be able to play them and remember you."

Now, I gotta say, I love my wife with every fiber of my being. She is absolutely amazing and supports me in every aspect of my life, especially my music. For heaven's sake, she was the one that told me to go back to the pawn shop and drop the $3k for the Ric 4001! Never flinched. Never said, "let's talk about this" it was just, "GO GET IT!"

So, now, I guess I am going to teach my wife how to play bass.

I think that's wonderfully sweet that she wants to learn to remember you, somewhat morbid but sweet.

 

[el murdoque]

DUDE!
Do you know what happens when she's able to play a few tunes to remember you by?
First your food will taste like bitter almonds and then she'll play a few tunes to remember you by.

Think hard! Did you do anything to upset her?

 

[JC BASS 91]

I think that's wonderfully sweet that she wants to learn to remember you, somewhat morbid but sweet.

Well, we have experienced a lot of death in our family over the last 7 years, so it is an ever-present thought that we aren't here forever.

DUDE!
Do you know what happens when she's able to play a few tunes to remember you by?
First your food will taste like bitter almonds and then she'll play a few tunes to remember you by.

Think hard! Did you do anything to upset her?

I already addressed these concerns in earlier comments. LOL I am not worried. To be honest, and she will totally back me up and agree with me, it would be far easier for me to live without her than for her to live without me. Even thinking about losing me makes her almost physically ill. We have such a wonderful marriage and we are so supportive of each other in everything. We really do have a marriage that a lot of people are envious of...and we know that for a fact because so many people have told us that!

 

[Bunk McNulty]

My Very Significant Other's only agenda is to make sure I keep playing. Because I'm unpleasant to be around when I'm not. Just ask her.

 

[JC BASS 91]

My Very Significant Other's only agenda is to make sure I keep playing. Because I'm unpleasant to be around when I'm not. Just ask her.

My wife knows that my bass playing is what keeps me sane these days. When my parents both died within a month of each other in 2017, I shut down. I didn't want to do anything and I didn't want to be around anyone. My three basses I had at the time were in their cases shut up in the closet or under the bed. I didn't touch them for four years. When my daughter graduated high school in 2021, I got the itch and started looking for a group to play with, with my wife's enthusiastic support. She really is my biggest fan!

 

[bass12]

I think this is my new favourite thread on TB...

 

[ImTheOnlyOne]

End of life planning is a thing, and an important one at that if you if you own things and care about others.

Start of life planning is also a serious challenge. Especially before the cells begin differentiation it's hard to sort your thoughts and take notes
Somewhere, however, I recall the joke about the widow selling the deceased's gear for what he said he paid, not what he actually paid.

To the OP, record a bunch of tracks she can play along with later. Sounds like she knows she'll miss you.

I had an opposite experience where someone I miss dearly in this life used my recordings as her ring tone. She's departed, but I cherish how my musical noodling appeared to bring her joy

 

[Ooba Tooba]

I told my wife that I want to be cremated.

She made an appointment for Thursday.

 

[Lance Bunyon]

I believe the ox, John entwistle and I married the same woman...

 

[57pbass]

Dis she happen to also say that “ She’s your biggest fan “ ?

 

[Five or Six]

When I croak if I go first, everything is in writing. That way there is no confusion. My wife knows to have me cremated. Her name is on my savings but she isn't to touch it until I'm dead. All my studio and anything band is to be sold. Dying isn't tough, living is tough. Get your ducks in a row early and enjoy what you are doing.

 

[packhowitzer]

I told my wife that I want to be cremated.

She made an appointment for Thursday.

I can hear this in Rodney's voice:

 

[MtManiac]

So, I have a growing collection of basses. I am currently working on a kit bass that will be #14. I am painting it metallic purple with a white pearl pickguard and gold hardware.

I have another bass, a Squier Sonic Bronco, in the web exclusive purple color.

Now, my wife has stated that my son, who is also a bassist, gets all of my bass stuff except for these two purple basses, which she intends to keep.

So here is the strange part...she looks at me today and says, "You need to teach me how to play. When you're gone, and I have these basses, I want to be able to play them and remember you."

Now, I gotta say, I love my wife with every fiber of my being. She is absolutely amazing and supports me in every aspect of my life, especially my music. For heaven's sake, she was the one that told me to go back to the pawn shop and drop the $3k for the Ric 4001! Never flinched. Never said, "let's talk about this" it was just, "GO GET IT!"

So, now, I guess I am going to teach my wife how to play bass.

I don’t get it - pardon my asking, but are you terminally ill?

 

[bigdaddybass12]

,,,(wife said””) , I want to be able to play them and remember you.",,,,,
,,,,,she was the one that told me to go back to the pawn shop and drop the $3k for the Ric 4001!

Sounds like a keeper wife! “Play them and remember you”. Some women will sell all at a loss and move past us weird musicians! Ok’d Spending $3k for a ric? (I can’t why anyone wants a ric) really a keeper! I hinted spending $1800 for a USA G&L kiloton last night, big NO!! (I did just buy a AR15 rifle though)

 

[bigdaddybass12]

Sleep with 1 eye open.

I joke with my wife that she could smother me and say it is sleep apnea! She is a critical care pulmonary nurse and make it look good!

 

[Bass Momma]

So, I have a growing collection of basses. I am currently working on a kit bass that will be #14. I am painting it metallic purple with a white pearl pickguard and gold hardware.

I have another bass, a Squier Sonic Bronco, in the web exclusive purple color.

Now, my wife has stated that my son, who is also a bassist, gets all of my bass stuff except for these two purple basses, which she intends to keep.

So here is the strange part...she looks at me today and says, "You need to teach me how to play. When you're gone, and I have these basses, I want to be able to play them and remember you."

Now, I gotta say, I love my wife with every fiber of my being. She is absolutely amazing and supports me in every aspect of my life, especially my music. For heaven's sake, she was the one that told me to go back to the pawn shop and drop the $3k for the Ric 4001! Never flinched. Never said, "let's talk about this" it was just, "GO GET IT!"

So, now, I guess I am going to teach my wife how to play bass.

When I was 60, I told my husband “I need to learn bass”. I’d never played any instrument, didn’t think I could sing. He’s a guitarist/singer, played all his life. He didn’t flinch. Did all he could to help me - however painful it must have been for him. Ten years later, I’m getting picked up for jazz gigs - he’s thrilled for me. We play together, too. It’s bliss.
If you step up and help your wife, you’ll both get so much from it. I did get a teacher, though!

 

[Rfan]

That is very cool. My wife will do just about anything to stop me from cracking open one of my bass cases. Just wound up quitting playing.

 

[micguy]

I don’t get it - pardon my asking, but are you terminally ill?

Yeah - the "when you're gone" phrase has me wondering. You might want to prepare your own food from now on.

 

[JC BASS 91]

I don’t get it - pardon my asking, but are you terminally ill?

I am not. Might go back and read some of my other posts in this thread to get a better understanding.

Sounds like a keeper wife! “Play them and remember you”. Some women will sell all at a loss and move past us weird musicians! Ok’d Spending $3k for a ric? (I can’t why anyone wants a ric) really a keeper! I hinted spending $1800 for a USA G&L kiloton last night, big NO!! (I did just buy a AR15 rifle though)

She's a total keeper. This morning I was looking at a G&L L2000 on Sweetwater. She asked me if that was my next purchase. It was marked down to $1450 from $1899, and I was seriously considering it. She asked the reasons I wanted it and I gave them. She shrugged her shoulders and asked, "Is it a good deal?" I told her that I felt it was. She looked at me and said, "Then get it." So I did. LOL

When I was 60, I told my husband “I need to learn bass”. I’d never played any instrument, didn’t think I could sing. He’s a guitarist/singer, played all his life. He didn’t flinch. Did all he could to help me - however painful it must have been for him. Ten years later, I’m getting picked up for jazz gigs - he’s thrilled for me. We play together, too. It’s bliss.
If you step up and help your wife, you’ll both get so much from it. I did get a teacher, though!

I figure I will get her started. If she seems like she is enjoying it and we are doing well together with it, I will continue to do what I can for her. If she feels like at some point she will learn better from someone else, I will get her lessons. (Recently found out that her and I can get a 50% discount for Fender Play if we sign up for a year...so that might be an option we explore.)

That is very cool. My wife will do just about anything to stop me from cracking open one of my bass cases. Just wound up quitting playing.

THAT was my first wife. She never supported my music in any way and complained endlessly about me being away to rehearse or for gigs. If I wanted to practice at home she would huff and sigh the entire time, coming into where I was practicing and acting like I was disturbing her. That marriage was a total joke and was pretty much dead at that point in time, anyway. The papers were filed the same year I started with that band.