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Oh look, it's another relationship-thread!
- Thread starter DeathFromBelow
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Heck, I'm on my phone driving a truck to bugger up someone else's business, while oppressing minorities!
This is something you should ask your friend. If she was indeed stringing him along, then that would be something worth knowing.
If I were in your shoes....
(worth about 2 cents on a good day)
She's been married for at least ten years, and obviously has some kind of rapport with the ex-husband (we'll call him that for the sake of clarity). If she cheated during the marriage there might be red flags. I'd bet she didn't, based on her suddenly looking for friendships and a life outside the home.
Your buddy has been friend-zoned. Too bad. Sad, but true. He's not in the running and needs to acknowledge that, no matter how smitten he thinks it is. He needs to get over it. Relationships take two people to be of the same mindset. Friend-zoning is a huge sign she doesn't want a relationship. She wants a friend, so buddy needs to step up.
While we are on the subject of friendships: At your age, I'm sure you're not just playing the field and looking for booty calls. You're likely open to a relationship. A relationship needs both parties to be friends. My wife if my best friend - for example.
I'd suggest that you ask her out, but try to put the focus on getting to know each other rather than just bumping bits.
That stuff will follow naturally if it clicks. Find out who she is before anything else. If she's trouble, you'll know pretty quickly.
GLWTR
(worth about 2 cents on a good day)
She's been married for at least ten years, and obviously has some kind of rapport with the ex-husband (we'll call him that for the sake of clarity). If she cheated during the marriage there might be red flags. I'd bet she didn't, based on her suddenly looking for friendships and a life outside the home.
Your buddy has been friend-zoned. Too bad. Sad, but true. He's not in the running and needs to acknowledge that, no matter how smitten he thinks it is. He needs to get over it. Relationships take two people to be of the same mindset. Friend-zoning is a huge sign she doesn't want a relationship. She wants a friend, so buddy needs to step up.
While we are on the subject of friendships: At your age, I'm sure you're not just playing the field and looking for booty calls. You're likely open to a relationship. A relationship needs both parties to be friends. My wife if my best friend - for example.
I'd suggest that you ask her out, but try to put the focus on getting to know each other rather than just bumping bits.
That stuff will follow naturally if it clicks. Find out who she is before anything else. If she's trouble, you'll know pretty quickly.
GLWTR
If you lived here, you'd just hook up with her without any consideration for your friend (like making out with her in front of him when you're in the same room) while she tried to stay friends with him - to his great aggravation. Fights would break out, friends of both parties would take sides, death threats would fly over the phone lines, cops would bust heads, and by this time next year the chick would have moved on to a mutual friend of you both and you'd be back to being great friends again. Plus you'd have some great jail stories. 
I have no idea how things work in Norway, but I say go for it full speed ahead.
I have no idea how things work in Norway, but I say go for it full speed ahead.
If you lived here, you'd just hook up with her without any consideration for your friend (like making out with her in front of him when you're in the same room) while she tried to stay friends with him. Fights would break out, friends of both parties would take sides, death threats would fly over the phone lines, cops would bust heads, and by this time next year the chick would have moved on to a mutual friend of you both and you'd be back to being great friends again. Plus you'd have some great jail stories.
I have no idea how things work in Norway, but I say go for it full speed ahead.
You forgot the meth, lawsuits, trailerparks, hospital bills and crappy beers.
Like i said, I can't know for sure. But this guy is a good friend of mine, and the way he's explained it to me (on several occasions) is that she's been pretty clear about them just being friends and he's been sticking around hoping for something more. Which is exactly what she told me last weekend as well.
That's pretty much the plan. Whatever I do, I'm not diving in without checking the depth first. I like the rest of Your post too, thanks.
If you lived here, you'd just hook up with her without any consideration for your friend (like making out with her in front of him when you're in the same room) while she tried to stay friends with him - to his great aggravation. Fights would break out, friends of both parties would take sides, death threats would fly over the phone lines, cops would bust heads, and by this time next year the chick would have moved on to a mutual friend of you both and you'd be back to being great friends again. Plus you'd have some great jail stories.
I have no idea how things work in Norway, but I say go for it full speed ahead.
That's usually how things go down here as well, I'm just getting too old for drama.
And yeah, I'm thinking full speed ahead sounds pretty good.
