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Double Bass Respect What is it? How do you earn it? (DB Forum thread)

Over the past year or 2, I have read any number of threads where people who do not fill out their profiles feel compelled to jump into TBDB with both feet and provide incredible advice (and I don't mean that in a positive way). The thread usually devolves into many off topic asides and usually involves the new poster getting their feelings hurt and/or their feathers ruffled when others call them out on their more than obvious lack of knowledge and/or expertise.

Here are a few questions for everyone who hangs out here. How does a musician earn or gain respect? If you are a well established musician how hard did you work to become respected in your field (not on this forum)? Should everyone's opinions be considered equal? Should anyone, regardless of their lack of knowledge, expertise, playing ability and/or credentials have the right to blather on ad infinitum about things that they know little or nothing about without being questioned or called out?

I don't wish TBDB to be some kind of High School clique. However, I do KNOW ENOUGH to listen to those who are far more well versed in a particular area than I am. I'm not going to argue with luthiers that know far more than I do about buildings bases, or how to set up and repair them. I'M GOING TO LISTEN! I'm not going to try to provoke some of our classical members about areas of expertise in their field. I WANT TO LISTEN AND LEARN FROM THEM! There are also a number of bassists on this forum who have played with jazz giants, written well regarded books on jazz bass and generally built up a certain amount of CRED. I"M GOING TO LISTEN AND LEARN FROM THEM!

What is the point of being disrespectful to people who have actually done something in the music world? What is it that compels certain people who have done nothing of note to act like experts and/or sages? If you haven't gotten in the ring, you don't know what it's like to be a fighter; you can only imagine. Why not ask good questions and listen for a change!

What say you forum members? Do we want to use this forum as a great resource or do we want to see it degenerate into a boring, frustrating troll hang out? Why don't we police ourselves a bit better and show respect when it has been earned to those who have earned it! If you have something of worth to say, fill out your profile, let us know who you really are!

Best,

T

why not start by renewing supporting memberships....one of the supporting member benefits, the TB Lounge, could be a "safer" posting place for those who are worried and so concerned about who is walking into a discussion. other than that, there are a number of other DB sites (Ken Smith?) out there that might feel better. but those places simply don't have the traffic numbers, and forming factions "cliques" is even more of a problem than it is here.....i'm not sure that some of the experienced music business types "pros" you are speaking of would post here so much at all if the member numbers here were reduced.many of them just don't have the time unless it's going to further their business needs.

becoming a registered TB member is pretty easy.....more hoops to jump through at the time of registration will certainly reduce the number of registrants. i don't know for sure, but it could be that the advertisers who support this site are very aware of the membership and traffic numbers. in that case certainly, lower numbers would have to diminish their interest too.
 
I would take either over any of Marc's picks. Not that I don't respect his choice in women; I just don't share it. They're all very nice, really, but my preference is for a bit more..........substance. :D

p.s. I respect all women and those who admire women.
 
It's all good..at times some of these grown men are too sensitive... everyone's Moral compass is that of Tim Tebows...

Moral compass aside, Tim doesn't have the right prayer cloth.

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Six Lombardis... someone upstairs approves of this team. Tebow better ask around... :D
 
I would take either over any of Marc's picks. Not that I don't respect his choice in women; I just don't share it. They're all very nice, really, but my preference is for a bit more..........substance. :D

p.s. I respect all women and those who admire women.

While Alyssa Milano will always have a place in my... uh... heart... I was really just continuing the silliness of Van Halen's post. If he can be rich, goodlooking, and drive a bmw I can have girls who are hot (in 2012) hanging out in my living room.
 
When a person comes on this forum, how are they supposed
to know who the "elite members" are?

When someone trolls you, how do you know when they are
just a troll, or if they are special?

The "elite" seem to stick together and jump on unsuspecting
folks who are just trying to find something out, but they just
say it wrong.

I have worked with professional musicians who for the most
part treated me like a human being. Not like some stupid
low class dumb a$$.

Do they change colors because of where they are. Or they
colored by all the stupid people on TB.

I never became a successful bassest, does that mean I can
not participate.

Do you "elite" guys want all us dumb a$$es out of here?

If you are special, why can't we tell?

TB would be nothing without us.

Tabdog
 
When a person comes on this forum, how are they supposed
to know who the "elite members" are?

The "elite" seem to stick together and jump on unsuspecting
folks who are just trying to find something out, but they just
say it wrong.

In my opinion, it is usually a good idea to spending some time reading a forum before signing up and posting. Just about any forum will have its own quirks and unwritten protocols, and it's good to get a sense of what those are before jumping into the fray. This applies to pretty much any internet forum, but it applies to the different sides of TB as well. There is a different culture here on the DB side than there is on the EB side, and taking some time to understand that culture and the various personalities here can help prevent misunderstandings.
 
In my opinion, it is usually a good idea to spending some time reading a forum before signing up and posting. Just about any forum will have its own quirks and unwritten protocols, and it's good to get a sense of what those are before jumping into the fray. This applies to pretty much any internet forum, but it applies to the different sides of TB as well. There is a different culture here on the DB side than there is on the EB side, and taking some time to understand that culture and the various personalities here can help prevent misunderstandings.

Excellent response, Febs. Thank you!

When a person comes on this forum, how are they supposed
to know who the "elite members" are?

When a newcomer to the forum arrives (walks into the bar), he or she (not "they") doesn't need to know at all who are the veterans or who are those who are accomplished in various areas. There are no "elite members." The assumption that there are reveals an important bias on your part. What someone new to the forum would do well to do is what Febs suggests. That is, spend some time reading ("listening"). This isn't unique to TB. The "netiquette" is pretty much the same on similar sites.

When someone trolls you, how do you know when they are
just a troll, or if they are special?

Trolling is not a behavior that's tolerated from anyone. It's also not a behavior in which the regulars here engage. If it were, then they wouldn't be regulars here.

The "elite" seem to stick together and jump on unsuspecting
folks who are just trying to find something out, but they just say it wrong.

I wonder on what you base that generalization. I've been around here a while and that's not at all how I'd characterize what happens. To paraphrase what I said in a previous post in this thread, just as in face-to-face conversations, it matters very much how one asks what he or she asks. Newbies are helped along here regularly and many of them don't know the usual terminology. They are not put upon for their ignorance. When they are put upon, it is because they ask with an air of entitlement, challenge the advice for which they asked, have their minds made up before they ask, don't bother to do a bit of research, or demand an immediate and comprehensive answer.

I have worked with professional musicians who for the most
part treated me like a human being. Not like some stupid
low class dumb a$$.

If you have much experience at all, then you've also encountered professional musicians who do treat you like a "low class dumb a$$." So it is with every group. I don't think that the behavior of the members here (esecially the regulars) is to treat people as "low class dumb a$$(es)."

Do they change colors because of where they are. Or they
colored by all the stupid people on TB.

Sorry, I don't understand this question.

I never became a successful bassest, does that mean I can not participate.

I never became a successful bassist either... at least not in the commercial sense or in the sense of having become a highly accomplished player. I'm not a pro. I have a day job. My playing pales in comparison to many of the people here who are kind enough to share their expertise. I've been participating (and learning) on TB just fine for about seven years.

Do you "elite" guys want all us dumb a$$es out of here?

Again, I don't see that there are any "elites" here. To answer your question, however, if one is, indeed, a "dumb a$$," then we would all be better off if that individual would leave.

If you are special, why can't we tell?

Hmm... let me try to understand the meaning of your terms. What does it mean to be "special" around here? I think it means being accomplished and/or knowledgeable in one or more areas relevant to playing the DB bass. It could even mean just being especially insightful in terms of posting about such issues.

Who is "we"? I suppose you are referring to some hidden group who are put upon and treated as "dumb a$$(es)." I suggest to you that such a group does not really exist, so I'll assume it's a group of one, namely you. Have you been treated poorly here in the DB forums? Based on a perusal of your posting history and on what I recall, you haven't been a participant in these forums. So, it seems that the answer is "No." Have you poured over these threads on the DB side of TB and concluded that members are treated badly? If so, please point us to that evidence.

Finally, you ask, "why can't we tell." Well, having defined "special" for you, if you can't tell who is, then I submit that you haven't taken the time to do what Febs suggested. Another explanation is that you're just a.... oh, never mind.

TB would be nothing without us.

Ah, the mythical group again. The put-upon group who does not post or participate here. The put-upon group that does not take the time to read the threads here. Without such a group, if it existed, the DB side of TB would be just fine. It already is because such a group, thankfully, does not exist.
 
Quite well done, sir!

Now, for the elitist segment of our program:
Mr. Dumbass - YouTube

Well!!!! Now you've gone and revealed your elitism! Apparently, you think it's appropriate to ridicule someone's inability to pronounce a name correctly. Maybe the poor guy in the commercial had a difficult upbringing. Maybe he had a learning disability. Maybe he was dyslexic. It's people like you and commercials like that that belie your espoused tolerance and respect for others! Hmmmph!



Just in case anyone missed it.... :D
 
When a person comes on this forum, how are they supposed
to know who the "elite members" are?

When someone trolls you, how do you know when they are
just a troll, or if they are special?

The "elite" seem to stick together and jump on unsuspecting
folks who are just trying to find something out, but they just
say it wrong.

I have worked with professional musicians who for the most
part treated me like a human being. Not like some stupid
low class dumb a$$.

Do they change colors because of where they are. Or they
colored by all the stupid people on TB.

I never became a successful bassest, does that mean I can
not participate.

Do you "elite" guys want all us dumb a$$es out of here?

If you are special, why can't we tell?

TB would be nothing without us.

Tabdog

Welcome!

In my opinion, it is usually a good idea to spending some time reading a forum before signing up and posting. Just about any forum will have its own quirks and unwritten protocols, and it's good to get a sense of what those are before jumping into the fray. This applies to pretty much any internet forum, but it applies to the different sides of TB as well. There is a different culture here on the DB side than there is on the EB side, and taking some time to understand that culture and the various personalities here can help prevent misunderstandings.

Sound (and kind) advice, thank-you!:)
 
If you are a well established musician how hard did you work to become respected in your field (not on this forum)? Should everyone's opinions be considered equal? Should anyone, regardless of their lack of knowledge, expertise, playing ability and/or credentials have the right to blather on ad infinitum about things that they know little or nothing about without being questioned or called out?

But the form of respect Trey is talking about is of a higher order - respect based on recognition of skill and/or accomplishment. It can only be earned through years of hard work and training, and as such goes against the mindset of those who wish to have something for nothing, who want to talk the talk without first walking the walk.

I don't see that there are any "elites" here.

Elitism is not a bad thing. Those who are most skilled at something deserve to be recognised as such.
 

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