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Stoner/Doom Bassists Thread, Part 90: Maxed Out

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When Let It Breathe first started we were a side project for our drummer and we practice in a shared space....BUT our drummer is the one who is in charge of the space and the other bands never practice. They still never practice but have tons of gear they leave down there they don't even use when they do play. I can't believe how many cabs, amps, guitars, pedals..ect are left down there. There is a big fully loaded pedalboard just left out and plugged in for me to trip over. I have stepped on his pedals so many times and I just don't give a fug. I used to until I realized if he doesn't care, why should I? Well now winter thaw has come and we have had a bunch of rain, it has gotten wet down there and we need to remove the carpet pieces and generally just want to redo the space. So I'm hopping our drummer has let everyone know to get their poopie out of there. I'd prefer to not have to share the space but I will settle for the other bands to stop using the space as a storage unit and remove all the crap they don't use. I feel like a bit of a dick since I came into this space as a side project but we pay our share and we are the only ones cleaning up and caring for the space. I know none of the other bands would steal anything but just their lack of care for their own gear has me constantly worried about mine.
 
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I was introduced to this girl maybe 6 weeks ago, who turned out to be a 30 year old psychologist (I'm 23). She's invited me to things with friends of hers then alone, always paid my way. Saturday I was to go to dinner with her but she instead switched it to cone over and help me in the yard all day. Then yesterday I was jogging around the town and She texted me she could see me, then invited me out for drinks after I finished my stuff. So I clean up head to her and she's with this age appropriate guy friend of hers I'd fleetingly met before and he brings a friend and they both obviously have a thing for her so it's like three dudes one girl. And they keep having her psychoanalyze them, but won't dare try it on her. We leave and she offers me a ride so get to my place and she reaches to hug me and I flip it into a kiss which she stops and says she can't. So I smirked and walked away. She texts back later how sorry she is. And I just told her she didn't need to appologize, that I was under the assumption she gets off on having all this attention and I was giving her what she must want, otherwise she's a damn oblivious psychologist. She went radio silent after that, and my friend who introduced her to me is having a field day that she got told off by a kid hehe.

But seriously this lady texted me at 2 am Saturday to say she couldn't sleep and didn't know what to do. And I straight up said you can come over and play insomniac or I can come over and see if sleep is really your goal... And she side stepped that. What a piece of work.

But good news is that whole misadventure cost only me $7.
 
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Blank_0101 said:
I was introduced to this girl maybe 6 weeks ago, who turned out to be a 30 year old psychologist (I'm 23). She's invited me to things with friends of hers then alone, always paid my way. Saturday I was to go to dinner with her but she instead switched it to cone over and help me in the yard all day. Then yesterday I was jogging around the town and She texted me she could see me, then invited me out for drinks after I finished my stuff. So I clean up head to her and she's with this age appropriate guy friend of hers I'd fleetingly met before and he brings a friend and they both obviously have a thing for her so it's like three dudes one girl. And they keep having her psychoanalyze them, but won't dare try it on her. We leave and she offers me a ride so get to my place and she reaches to hug me and I flip it into a kiss which she stops and says she can't. So I smirked and walked away. She texts back later how sorry she is. And I just told her you don't need to appologize, I was under the assumption she gets off on having all this attention and I was giving her what she must want, otherwise she's a damn oblivious psychologist. She went radio silent after that, and my friend who introduced her to me is having a field day that she got told off by a kid hehe.

But seriously this lady texted me at 2 am Saturday to say she couldn't sleep and didn't know what to do. And I straight up said you can come over and play insomniac or I can come over and see if sleep is really your goal... And she side stepped that. What a piece of work.
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Yeah, don't waste any more time on that...
 
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The_Janitor said:
Yeah, don't waste any more time on that...
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+1, sounds like she's got issues with relationships and male attention. Single 30 year old women don't routinely make platonic friends with 23 year old males, she knows exactly what she's doing. Either that or she's internally conflicted or totally oblivious to her own emotional issues. Which would be ironic but not surprising, considering her education. Some people (regardless of gender or age) just love attention anywhere they know they can get it, with perfect willful ignorance of the relationship dynamic they're creating. That is to say, they're totally willing to ignore the reality that there's another person involved, who is impacted by their actions and has emotional needs of their own.
 
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Blank_0101 said:
I was introduced to this girl maybe 6 weeks ago, who turned out to be a 30 year old psychologist (I'm 23). She's invited me to things with friends of hers then alone, always paid my way. Saturday I was to go to dinner with her but she instead switched it to cone over and help me in the yard all day. Then yesterday I was jogging around the town and She texted me she could see me, then invited me out for drinks after I finished my stuff. So I clean up head to her and she's with this age appropriate guy friend of hers I'd fleetingly met before and he brings a friend and they both obviously have a thing for her so it's like three dudes one girl. And they keep having her psychoanalyze them, but won't dare try it on her. We leave and she offers me a ride so get to my place and she reaches to hug me and I flip it into a kiss which she stops and says she can't. So I smirked and walked away. She texts back later how sorry she is. And I just told her she didn't need to appologize, that I was under the assumption she gets off on having all this attention and I was giving her what she must want, otherwise she's a damn oblivious psychologist. She went radio silent after that, and my friend who introduced her to me is having a field day that she got told off by a kid hehe.

But seriously this lady texted me at 2 am Saturday to say she couldn't sleep and didn't know what to do. And I straight up said you can come over and play insomniac or I can come over and see if sleep is really your goal... And she side stepped that. What a piece of work.

But good news is that whole misadventure cost only me $7.
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Here is some advice on all this. Dont spend a damn dime on this lady. But.... See how far it will go, even if it is for your own entertainment. Psychologists will mind game on you to figure you out. Keep her guessing, change your plan of attack every time. It will present her with a problem she cant figure out, and that will fuuck even more with her. When she finally gives up on trying to figure you out, switch to a straight ahead obvious approach. If she gives up on the game totally just ask her what she was trying to get out of it.

Either way, it could be entertaining, and free if she keeps buying you dinner.
 
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Yea I really only stuck around in the first place because it didn't make sense and I was curious what she was trying to accomplish.

My friends intention was not to set us up, so he was surprised when we three went to dinner a few weeks back and when I had to leave early she couldn't stop talking about me, so he kept thinking ok... He's 23 your 30 do or don't lady. So he told me to steadily act more aggressively forward with her until she either relents and submits or we find out she's just weird and can drop her.

She's very attractive so yes classic I'd take a dip in the crazy pool if it came to it. But I'm beginning to see a pattern of this year so far, I've had three encounters (tech 4 but that was one night) now this year two with older women and one my age. First was absolutely crazy but I got that a few times and she'd go away when told. Girl my age I was just being nice to and she turned it really weird. Tried to shag me, but I was out of condoms. Then she leaves and called me every night for two weeks to see if she could come back and wouldn't appear (she's my next door neighbor lol). So I just slowly stopped answering as idk what she needs but I don't want to give it. Then this lady. So all in all not much luck for a real relationship yet, but I've spent a combined maybe $10 so far this year on girls so I'm not losing much but my time.
 
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Blank_0101 said:
Yea I really only stuck around in the first place because it didn't make sense and I was curious what she was trying to accomplish.

My friends intention was not to set us up, so he was surprised when we three went to dinner a few weeks back and when I had to leave early she couldn't stop talking about me, so he kept thinking ok... He's 23 your 30 do or don't lady. So he told me to steadily act more aggressively forward with her until she either relents and submits or we find out she's just weird and can drop her.

She's very attractive so yes classic I'd take a dip in the crazy pool if it came to it. But I'm beginning to see a pattern of this year so far, I've had three encounters (tech 4 but that was one night) now this year two with older women and one my age. First was absolutely crazy but I got that a few times and she'd go away when told. Girl my age I was just being nice to and she turned it really weird. Tried to **** me, but I was out of condoms. Then she leaves and called me every night for two weeks to see if she could come back and wouldn't appear (she's my next door neighbor lol). So I just slowly stopped answering as idk what she needs but I don't want to give it. Then this lady. So all in all not much luck for a real relationship yet, but I've spent a combined maybe $10 so far this year on girls so I'm not losing much but my time.
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This is when you picture text your neighbor a big box of condoms.
 
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mbelue said:
Most people who study psychology have their fair share of issues. A lot of them are real pieces of work.
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Yea I've heard that, probably can confirm that now.

My friend is wondering if she'll try and bring it up with him or if I sent her scurrying. In that circle of friends she's at the top of the hierarchy so if she tells anyone it probably won't be told how it occurred as I doubt she'd admit the youngling called her out on everything.
 
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beebassdude said:
reading stories like girls playing games at age 30 makes me so glad im married and dont have to deal with that ****. how anyone past highschool/college has time for that **** is beyond me.
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I think I wouldn't mind it, though I still say not til I'm 30.

Yea, I'm pretty forward, but to be honest it always seems to go I meet a girl, talk to her, then she moves it along and pays my way and I escalate it physically when it makes sense to me. She's the first person to bother with that and she's the oldest of any girl I bothered to know.

Any time I go for the standard "hey girl I'd like to get to know you, can I get your number and we do x"... Never works. My longest relationship happened because she got tired of talking one day and just said wanna see my new bra. Got Three dirty dirty years from that lol.

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This is when you picture text your neighbor a big box of condoms.
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Noooo she took it down a notch then started asking for me to do things for her, I don't and I sure as hell won't attempt that then feel obligated to assist her in things.
 
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beebassdude said:
reading stories like girls playing games at age 30 makes me so glad im married and dont have to deal with that ****. how anyone past highschool/college has time for that **** is beyond me.
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Likewise, neither my wife or I are devoid of head trips, but we communicate pretty straightforwardly and don't play games with each other. I was pretty upfront about that right away, because I had a super crazy girlfriend in high school and another right after and it made me take a step back and look at how I was feeding into that dynamic. The first time we ever had a fight while we were dating, we worked it out pretty quickly (because it wasn't a big deal at all to me) and she just sort of kept arguing with me after she got her way. So I said "we had a conflict, we resolved it. If you just like arguing, find someone else to do it with, because I don't". She looked at me kind of funny, shook her head, blushed and went "oh, sorry" and we've been pretty good at communicating since. I think most people are used to others just never communicating honestly, always playing some kind of game, what they say is never what they want and every motivation is obscured. If you're honest and sincere with people, they tend to drop the head games unless they're really messed up. Those people I just drop out of my life, because I don't have the patience for manufactured drama.
 
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